I dont know how to fix my marriage

[Eyescrying]

I have an awesome wife. That does a lot around the house. She is the best wife I could ever ask for, Cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, and maintains a pretty level head. Yet she has this idot of a husband. That goes to work, works late hours for the company he works for in hopes of possible running it. Missing out on all the good thinks in life. My loveable wife and my very loving kids, who just want there daddy. He doesnt pay attention to his wife nearly enough and he finally got his eyes wide open and sees that hes about to lose the best thing he's ever had. But doesnt know how he can fix the problem now. He(I'm) lost, I love her with all my heart yet am not good at making it appeartain to her that I am very thing full that I have such a wonderful wife. Never been good at giving complaments to any one. I need and want to learn how to be better at this, but what i really want is my wife to love me. At what ever the cost might be other than any thing to do with my kids.

[val100]

You do know how to fix it because she has already obviously told you what she needs. How about working ordinary hours and taking your wife away just the two of you and try this one Tell her how much you love her and tell her just how stupid you have been.
Women need to see, so change your habits and start having fun with this amazing woman.

[Eyescrying]

Thank you that helps. I will post an update. At moment she wont even talk to me. So I hope she will just go with me and her. I think I need to work on other areas as well Jealously is one of them. It just hurts me to see her grind on strange men or even some one we both know.

[val100]

Grind on other men??????

I suppose when I first read your post i got a bit Oh for gods sake because My H didn't listen and ignored my needs through his own stupidity.
He was the love of my life and sadly after all is said and done and the dust is starting to settle I realise how much happier I am now on my own.
You don't want that to be what your wife s saying in 12months so I should be more supportive.
Write to her and say in that what you haev said to us. Tell her that you want to change FOR YOU so that then you can be the man you truly are and that you can have the only thing you have ever wanted back in your life her. You want to be able to show her the life she deserves and also to have the time with her to say how sorry you are.
You will work everyday of your life with her proving you are changed and willing to keep improving yourself for her. Tell her you fall in love with her everyday and you want her to fall in love with you all over again daily.
You must get off your bum nowyou have loads of work to do.

[Raymond]

Nobody on their deathbed has ever said I should have spent more time at the office or factory. It's great you are waking up to this. Yes we all need an income but if we put work before everything, wife, children then we pay a price as you are discovering.

Val's idea to write a letter sounds a good one. Really you are already there in heart but you need to let her know where you are now. Hopefully this will give her some hope for the future. She doesn't want more money she wants you. Hopefully you have seen the light in time.

Raymond

[Eyescrying]

Thank you two very much. I will do just that. I feel that there might be some hope with your insite on what you both have told me. Thank you very much it means a lot to me

[jools]

I can see that you really appreciate your wife but there's a "but" to this...
I have an awesome wife. That does a lot around the house. She is the best wife I could ever ask for, Cooks, cleans, takes care of the kids, and maintains a pretty level head. That just all sound so wrong! If you were worried about losing an awesome housekeeper then it would do. I hope you don't express your appreciation of her in these terms when you speak to her. Be a bit more romantic! You love the way she smiles, laughs, seems to understand you, ---- and all that. You know what I mean! Be more flaming romantic!
Jools X