Help Me Please

[loop]

How Do I Over Come A Jelouse Problem. My Husband Is The Worlds Biggest Flert. Every Mate Im With He Flerts And Winds Me Up. He Has Girl Mates And I Hate Him Being With Them. I Think He Has Done Something Behind My Back But I Have No Real Everdence(sorry Bad Speller).one Of My X Mates He Told Her On Msn How Much He Wanted To Shag Her .another One He Gropped In My House In Front Of Me .i Love Him But He Wont Stop I Dont Trust Him When He Goes Out And We Are Allways Argueing I Dont No What Else To Do I Have 4 Children With This Man And I Dont Want Them Hurt In Any Way. He Says He Hasent Done Anything With Anyone Just Flert. A Medem Looked At A Picture Of Him And Told Me That He As In The Past But It Was Just Sex And Nothing As Happened Since. How Do I Mencion That To Him As Well As He Dont Beleve In None Of That.another Friend Says Just Leave It And It Will Sort Out In The End But I Have Put Up With It For Years How Much More Can I Do. Sorry For Keep Going On And Thanks

[val100]

Well firstly As a female I would find his behaviour really repulsive, however some people can really get away with it as in some people are just really funny and their charm and humour lets you know they don't mean it.
I wouldn't be one to believe in mediums so I cannot comment on that part of your thread.

To be honest you telling him how disrespected you feel when he is flirting etc should be enough.
Have you approached the subject of him saying he wanted to shag your x friend?
Why is she your X friend and why did he have her on msn?

You need to decide why you believe it is ok to be treated like this

[loop]

Its A Family Computer So Every One Is On It I Dont Talk To Her Any More Because She Was Involved With It As Well.i Have Told Him How I Feel And All He Says Is That Is Him And He Is Doing No Harm. I Ave Also Told Him How Much It Hurts. It Stops For A Bit Then All Starts Up Again.

[val100]

He really needs to grow up!

I think you need to get marriage help from a proffessional, He is treating you so badly.
He really has no business to carry on like this.

[Raymond]

Loop it is not right for him to grope anyone because he is married to you. I think that is quite serious. What will he do when you are not there? He is really exceeding what should be proper between a husband and wife. You will have to be more confrontational about it. It's just him is not an answer. You don't flirt once you have found the one you choose to marry.

Be careful of going to mediums Loop. The spirits they use are not from God and will bring a fear or lead you astray in the long run.

Raymond

[loop]

All I Get Is He Is Doing No Harm He Says He Is A Flirt And I New It When I Got With Him 15 Yrs Ago Another Thing He States He Comes Home To Me Why Would He Go Anywhere Else. How Can I Get Him To Stop If He Dosent Listen

[val100]

So time you stood up for yourself. To be honest are you not embarrased, do you not feel rejected and disgusted.
This is just him being ignorant and getting a cheap thrill. What kind of women are they that haven't swung round and told him to behave. I know that I wipe the floor with any man that touches me without my permission.
How dare he act like this. It is disrespectful to you your children and to women everywhere.
How old is he?

[loop]

He Is 33 But I Hate Him And Love Him At The Same Time Yes Im Weard has anyone been in this situation or had been and what to do. im stuck and dont even want to be at home when he is here.

[loop]

Dose Anyone Think Counciling Will Help??????as Anyone Got A Simuler Prob And Can Tell Me What To Do

[Raymond]

Counseling might help but it would have to be both of you, not just you.

I think most people would not have started a marriage with this problem Loop and the truth of it is that you shouldn't have accepted it right at the start. Now you realise this you have to get your message accross. If his answer is that you knew this at the beginning tell him you were wrong and naive then and it is not good enough now. You haven't really got a marriage if this carries on because it's you and all these other women. If it goes too far you would have to consider if it is worth staying in a marriage like this because of the way he is behaving. It is being unfaithful to you and it is taking you for a ride. You are his wife after all. Others may have a solution. I am not in that kind of marriage, but I hope others will be able to tell their story. It sounds as if you are just being used and it is time you stood up for yourself as Val has said however you work that out in practice.

Raymond

[Alice Alice]

Dear Loop
i'm sure there are some women he has done this to and found him to be out of line, find out who they are and create some kind of support you can't fight these other women who like what he is doing alone.

OR

Tell him you have had enough of him and your giving him 24 hours to straiten up pack your bags and tell him your ready to walk out if he doesn't tell these women to back off
Then tell him you want a public apology from him so you can get your self respect back.

So far everyone here is siding with you, you deserve to be treated like a loved wife not treated carelessly and have your feeling thrown around like a paper plate

It boils down to our men just being careless of their lives they have with us