Trying to save my marriage

[kps]

HI all,

I have been married for 5 yrs now and have a 2 yr old son. We had alove marriage and we have been knowing each other for the past 8 yrs.
Our marriage was an accident and our families accepted. We had lot of misunderstanding between me and my husband and we split in 3 months time.Too many problems and we stayed away for a year and a half and even went to the extent of Divorce. But due to some help we got back and i had a baby.
We still have lot of misunderstnading. He has not been financially supporting me and does not care for the family. He is a spend thrift and spends money on his interest. There is a base love i have for him and after many fights i have even been away from him sexually. I have not even kissed him for years now. I work and have some savings. I feel he is using me and the maximum as i have been paying away all his debts. Now he has picked up a fight with me and has walked away from home.

What do i do. I have a sick son who is suffering from a incurable disease. Though iam educated and have a good job iam not confident enough to handle the world alone.what do i do.. Iam 30 yrs old now.

My husband has some serious illness and has had couple of heart attacks when he was ill. He is not taking care of his health too..

Dears.. pl do not think this is a story.. This is my life.The life i have chosen to live. I do not have any siblings to be with me.. pls advice..

Pls pray for me..

Love
KPS:confused:

[kps]

HI Guys..Iam new here... can you pls share your views with me..

[Raymond]

Dear KPS you paint such a dark picture of your husband one wonders if there is any hope apart from to pray. Has he any good points at all? What attracted you to him in the first place. I feel you have to start with something positive, something to work on. If something is black black black then one doesn't know what to say. Presumably you still want to be with him by the sound of it and he is not into any adultery or porn. That would be positive for a start. When there is something good going on, however small, there is hope. We all want something good going on which gives us hope that the negatives can be sorted as well.

What is this interest he is spending money on? Does he have problems from childhood? What are the misunderstandings about? He does sound very self centred. It sounds like a case for counseling where someone outside the marriage will see what is going wrong and what needs to be done. It would have to be both of you though. Sounds like you need to be strong and protect yourself financially if he isn't going to.

Raymond

[kps]

Thanks Raymond,

I have been asking this question to myself what is that i like in him.. Probably the thought that i cannot live alone is making me cling on to him and maybe.. there is something deep in my heart that makes me miss him so much when he is not around. I feel a Vaccum in his absence.
I am trying to get in to a councelling but will have to find a way to convince him for that.

I have lost hopes in prayers.. it has not helped me.. i really think am i here to be a sufferer. All i have been dreaming of from childhood is a happy married life. but not a continuous 1 month i have been happy. I want to live happy. I want to be pampered by my husband. I want to be a good wife and a mother. I should be respected and loves a Women... this is a basic thing i ask but i hve not reached there...

Will i ever smile from the bottom of my heart...?

I WANT TO LEAD A HAPPY LIFE

I

[Raymond]

Dear KP you are not here to be a sufferer. I sense a lot of discouragement in you but at the same time a lot of hunger. Your attempts at prayer haven't helped you. Could it be that you need to know the Son? He is the only way to God who has arranged that we only come through the son to Him. Remember He said that He was the way, the truth and the life and no one comes to the Father except through Him. Or think of another verse God so loved the world that He gave His only beloved son that whoever believed in Him would not perish but have everlasting life. He also said I have come that they might have abundant life. It is real KP it really is. God sees your prayers but I believe He waits for you to find His son so that He can bless you. Our past and our sins have seperated us from the Father but Jesus paid the price for them and if we receive that we can come into His kingdom here on earth.

Think about it KP. From my vantage point I see that you desperately need God. That's why it would be wrong of me not to give you the good news. Didn't Jesus say tell the good news to every creature and those that believe will be saved. If you get that right the rest of your life will gradually fall into place. I probably had a much worse upbringing than you and was a big mess but there is hope a lot of hope if you can see it. He will never let you down. Didn't He say I will never leave you not forsake you? Once you ask Him in you will belong to Him and find the freedom you want.

Keep talking KP. I don't usually talk like this but felt it was right today and that God is speaking to you. He will never force you though. You come to Him with your own freewill.

Raymond

[Alice Alice]

Dear kps
you sound like me...all i ever dreamed of was a family of my own, full of laughter and joy.

Raymond is right if you believe in the God our father pray to him through his son

I do it like this....Dear God i pray to you through your son Jesus Christ,,,,,
make sure you use the name Christ no one has that name....the are a lot of Jesus in history but only one Christ and that is Jesus Christ,,,he will always be there for you, feel his calmness warm your heart.

you sound like you really love your husband so fallow your heart and listen to your stomach

[kps]

Dear Alice and Dear Raymond

It was as if GOD spoke through you to me. to be very honest it has been quite some time after all this struggle i have not knelt down and prayed but now i will i will ask god through Christ. These troubled situations are there to make me realize GOD make me his child...Iam sure he wil answer my prayers. Atleast for the sake of my son he will.

Thanks all for your support. reading your messages make me feel light today. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I will need to develop courage.

Thnkas all

[Raymond]

Hi kps that is encouraging. Try and make sure you ask Him into your life. I could frame a prayer for you if you like. I really think He is the answer for you at this time. Things can be worked out out of that, but first things first. We are talking about eternity as well. This is not a formula. It is a destiny, yours. One that God has mapped out for you if you choose it.

God bless you kps. I feel for you and really hope you get established in faith.

PS It will not only be for the sake of your son it will be for you because God loves you kps.

Raymond

[dickjones]

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