lonelylass
26th March 2008, 06:19 PM
Hi All,
I'm after a bit of advice as something's bothering me.
I went to visit a group of friends over the weekend, I text them to make sure they were there and they said come on down. I was fine when I got there and we all ordered a pub lunch. While we were waiting my mate said to me you know H was at the AGM? I said no, she said well he was and sat with us all evening (he was alone) and they told him they wish to remain mutual and be friends with both of us. I said Oh.
Next was, has X told you that H text in the week and may come down today? I said NO! X then said he didn't tell me as he wanted to see me and didn't think I'd come. I said I wouldn't have! I was then on edge all afternoon waiting for him to turn up with her and what would I do if he did. As it got later, X says he won't turn up now as he's going to Spain tomorrow, I said What? Oh didn't you know, was the reply.
My problem is this, this group of friends H never wanted to associate with in recent years and we basically got cut off from them, though I have been in phone contact with them before and after we split. I really enjoyed their company, but went along with H's wishes. It seems to me now that he is 'weedling' his way back in as if for reassurance to what he has done to me and potentially bringing her along.
I am hurt by this and I can't put my finger on it, it's almost as if I feel I can no longer trust them if you know what I mean but really want to keep them as friends?
What happens if in the future he turns up with her in tow?
Could really do with some wise words here and not sure I could cope, almost as if they are justifying his behavior if you know what I mean?
Now another bother. Last night I went up the pub to play pool, I rang my neighour to see if he was going and walked up with him. It turns out they had a full team, so I just socialised for the most part with their GFs and managed to get a couple of games in at the end of the night. My neighbour (65) walked me home and we chatted about how things are changing in the street, death, divorce, moves etc. When we got back to his house he just turned round and said out of the blue, well this is where you invite me to yours for a coffee and while you put the kettle on I slip your jeans down!! I laughed and said well you can have a coffee and that's it!!
He came in and while I was making the drinks he pulled me into him and kept pecking me on the lips, I said No, don't want this don't ruin a good friendship, he said no? I said no and pulled myself away and hurridly let the dogs in. OMG!! I am horrified! I went to another neighbour whos lights were still on and she was shocked and thought it was amusing, 'typical man' was their comment, advise being to laugh it off next time I see him. How can I? I feel mortified. I can give as good as I get banter wise but I did nothing to warrant this, I am stunned. :eek::eek::eek::eek: | IP: Logged (http://www.deardenise.com/cgi-bin/ubb/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_ip&f=20&t=000293&reply_num=000041)
I'm after a bit of advice as something's bothering me.
I went to visit a group of friends over the weekend, I text them to make sure they were there and they said come on down. I was fine when I got there and we all ordered a pub lunch. While we were waiting my mate said to me you know H was at the AGM? I said no, she said well he was and sat with us all evening (he was alone) and they told him they wish to remain mutual and be friends with both of us. I said Oh.
Next was, has X told you that H text in the week and may come down today? I said NO! X then said he didn't tell me as he wanted to see me and didn't think I'd come. I said I wouldn't have! I was then on edge all afternoon waiting for him to turn up with her and what would I do if he did. As it got later, X says he won't turn up now as he's going to Spain tomorrow, I said What? Oh didn't you know, was the reply.
My problem is this, this group of friends H never wanted to associate with in recent years and we basically got cut off from them, though I have been in phone contact with them before and after we split. I really enjoyed their company, but went along with H's wishes. It seems to me now that he is 'weedling' his way back in as if for reassurance to what he has done to me and potentially bringing her along.
I am hurt by this and I can't put my finger on it, it's almost as if I feel I can no longer trust them if you know what I mean but really want to keep them as friends?
What happens if in the future he turns up with her in tow?
Could really do with some wise words here and not sure I could cope, almost as if they are justifying his behavior if you know what I mean?
Now another bother. Last night I went up the pub to play pool, I rang my neighour to see if he was going and walked up with him. It turns out they had a full team, so I just socialised for the most part with their GFs and managed to get a couple of games in at the end of the night. My neighbour (65) walked me home and we chatted about how things are changing in the street, death, divorce, moves etc. When we got back to his house he just turned round and said out of the blue, well this is where you invite me to yours for a coffee and while you put the kettle on I slip your jeans down!! I laughed and said well you can have a coffee and that's it!!
He came in and while I was making the drinks he pulled me into him and kept pecking me on the lips, I said No, don't want this don't ruin a good friendship, he said no? I said no and pulled myself away and hurridly let the dogs in. OMG!! I am horrified! I went to another neighbour whos lights were still on and she was shocked and thought it was amusing, 'typical man' was their comment, advise being to laugh it off next time I see him. How can I? I feel mortified. I can give as good as I get banter wise but I did nothing to warrant this, I am stunned. :eek::eek::eek::eek: | IP: Logged (http://www.deardenise.com/cgi-bin/ubb/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_ip&f=20&t=000293&reply_num=000041)