Mr C
3rd January 2008, 05:01 PM
My wife has gone very cold towards me, ive asked her what the problem is and she start digging up things from years ago, saying i control her and tell her what she can and cant do, which i dont. She is a woman with a very short fuse and likes to pull her stropps, she does not like people looking at her, even me, people who know her have to tred on eggshells. She smokes cannabis which i used to but stopped as it was giving me paranoia which i feel she has.I am not one of these men that do nothing around the house, I always do my fair share of cleaning, washing and shopping, cook nearly ever meal. We have been together for 14 years now and married 2 years ago, we married abroad, two days before our wedding we decided to go down onto the beach, the beach was full and there no beds available, so we laid our towels out on the sand and sat down, within a few minutes she was moaning that sand was sticking to her and she wouldnt shut up. I wasnt prepared to argue in front of loads of people, so rolled my towel up and started walking back to the apartment, she followed still moaning. We got into the apartment and i just totally lost it, i grabbed her by the neck and picked her up for a few seconds. I know i shouldnt have done it but i was at boiling point plus the stress of the wedding. We made up again and i promised iwould never lay a finger on her again(which i havent). The wedding went ahead ok plus the rest of the holiday. We continued our life together as normal.
We had decided that 2007 would be the year we start trying for children, so in the April she stopped taking the pill so of course the passions killers came out (condoms). We wanted to have a baby in the summer so decided to wait and try until around August, September. She has always wanted children so when the time came to try she had turned very cold towards me and kept staying away from me, I would sit in the living room, she would sit in the kitchen on the internet.
I noticed my wife was visiting one of these make new friends websites. She was and still is totally hooked on it every minute of the day she would sit at the kitchen table scrawling through the site, i had joined the same site but gave it up as it was mainly full of perverts after women to go webcam. One day she asked how do you set up a hotmail account. I asked her why do you need one of those, she replied because everyone's got one. Anyway she set one up herself and used it for msn messenger. I was getting curious as to what she was up to, so i stupidly set up a spy programme to watch what she doing on her wireless laptop. A few days later i was upstairs on my pc with this spy programme running, and i noticed her logging into msn messenger with a totally different acccount name, when it logged on i noticed it had about 5 different men who were all offline. I later confronted her about it and she said it was just to chat to them nothing else. The next day i went to work and she was off, when i arrived home she said 'you can talk ive just been on your pc and logged into your hotmail account and saw f**k bubbies'. Now this was a site i joined a few years back but had to pay to communicate, which i never i was just curious as to who was in my area on this site, the site always sent me updates which i never bothered with. Well since then we have argued nearly every few days, sex has gone from twice a week to once a month if im lucky. I have asked her if she loves me and she has said only in the same way she would love her parents. She has in the last few weeks said she wants to split up, I have asked her if that is what she wants I won’t stop her as I am sick of being left on my own. She hasn’t attempted to arrange anything, instead she just goes on this particular website. We are still sleeping in the same bed. I have said I will sleep in the spare bedroom but she has told me to stop being stupid and to sleep in the same bed as her. She still expects me cook the meal every night, if I don’t do it she wont attempt to do it, she would make some toast or something for herself. I am getting all confused by her and feel I need to start the ball rolling or it will just drag on.
We had decided that 2007 would be the year we start trying for children, so in the April she stopped taking the pill so of course the passions killers came out (condoms). We wanted to have a baby in the summer so decided to wait and try until around August, September. She has always wanted children so when the time came to try she had turned very cold towards me and kept staying away from me, I would sit in the living room, she would sit in the kitchen on the internet.
I noticed my wife was visiting one of these make new friends websites. She was and still is totally hooked on it every minute of the day she would sit at the kitchen table scrawling through the site, i had joined the same site but gave it up as it was mainly full of perverts after women to go webcam. One day she asked how do you set up a hotmail account. I asked her why do you need one of those, she replied because everyone's got one. Anyway she set one up herself and used it for msn messenger. I was getting curious as to what she was up to, so i stupidly set up a spy programme to watch what she doing on her wireless laptop. A few days later i was upstairs on my pc with this spy programme running, and i noticed her logging into msn messenger with a totally different acccount name, when it logged on i noticed it had about 5 different men who were all offline. I later confronted her about it and she said it was just to chat to them nothing else. The next day i went to work and she was off, when i arrived home she said 'you can talk ive just been on your pc and logged into your hotmail account and saw f**k bubbies'. Now this was a site i joined a few years back but had to pay to communicate, which i never i was just curious as to who was in my area on this site, the site always sent me updates which i never bothered with. Well since then we have argued nearly every few days, sex has gone from twice a week to once a month if im lucky. I have asked her if she loves me and she has said only in the same way she would love her parents. She has in the last few weeks said she wants to split up, I have asked her if that is what she wants I won’t stop her as I am sick of being left on my own. She hasn’t attempted to arrange anything, instead she just goes on this particular website. We are still sleeping in the same bed. I have said I will sleep in the spare bedroom but she has told me to stop being stupid and to sleep in the same bed as her. She still expects me cook the meal every night, if I don’t do it she wont attempt to do it, she would make some toast or something for herself. I am getting all confused by her and feel I need to start the ball rolling or it will just drag on.