jude09
18th October 2007, 07:37 AM
I am in a relationship with a girl from the last 3 and a half years. We love each other to bits. We are so compatible that we hardly ever fight. Even if we do we talk it out and resolve it.
She comes from a poor family, has 3 siblings. Her dad has a low paying job back in their town. Being the eldest child, she came to the big city to work and support her family (right after completing high school, giving up her graduation).
I come from a well-to-do family with our own house, and fairly wealthy. We have always lived a comfortable life thanks to my fathers great paying job over the years. He is now retired.
Though i have done graduation with a diploma, i opted to take a more "artistic" line of work. Hence I am earning very less compared to what i could have been earning now with my credentials. I only make enough to get me thru the month, pay my bills.
We have decided to get married, and our parents have okayed it. Though i am certain my parents are not completely pleased, because of her family background, her lack of higher studies, how she would fit in our social circle, her job (she works at a bar/restaurant). And have voiced their opinion to me.
I am worried about the situation after marriage. Besides supporting the 2 of us, we have to save money to support her family, her brothers' education. Also as a couple we would need to save money and plan for the future, car, house, kids etc. I do not want to ask money from my father, as it wont be right.
She is a wonderful girl, with a big heart, who has sacrificed so much to do so much for her family. I could never be half the person she is.
Our engagement is planned for next month, and marriage next year. I am a practical person, and not so blinded by love that i dont see the possible future financial load. It is eating me up from inside, and I really want advice from you all.
Thanks
She comes from a poor family, has 3 siblings. Her dad has a low paying job back in their town. Being the eldest child, she came to the big city to work and support her family (right after completing high school, giving up her graduation).
I come from a well-to-do family with our own house, and fairly wealthy. We have always lived a comfortable life thanks to my fathers great paying job over the years. He is now retired.
Though i have done graduation with a diploma, i opted to take a more "artistic" line of work. Hence I am earning very less compared to what i could have been earning now with my credentials. I only make enough to get me thru the month, pay my bills.
We have decided to get married, and our parents have okayed it. Though i am certain my parents are not completely pleased, because of her family background, her lack of higher studies, how she would fit in our social circle, her job (she works at a bar/restaurant). And have voiced their opinion to me.
I am worried about the situation after marriage. Besides supporting the 2 of us, we have to save money to support her family, her brothers' education. Also as a couple we would need to save money and plan for the future, car, house, kids etc. I do not want to ask money from my father, as it wont be right.
She is a wonderful girl, with a big heart, who has sacrificed so much to do so much for her family. I could never be half the person she is.
Our engagement is planned for next month, and marriage next year. I am a practical person, and not so blinded by love that i dont see the possible future financial load. It is eating me up from inside, and I really want advice from you all.
Thanks