Tangeled Web...

[cinnamungurl333]

I hardy know where to begin with this. I've been married for 17 years the 20th of this month and Im not "in love" and to be honest dont think I ever was. I ended up getting pregnant at 20 and married him because it was the right thing to do. I completely sacraficed my happiness to raise my 2 awesome kids in a "normal" enviroment. Now that Im 37 years old and my two kids are now independant teens. I feel like my life is wasteing away. I know Im so gonna get dissed for this, but Im posting it anyway to a least see if there is anyone else out there with a similar story, that I can relate to or chat with. A couple weekends ago, there was a conference at work and I met someone who I connected with like never before. We just couldnt get enough of each other. The problem there is...he's married, so I know that's nothing but TROUBLE. But... I just cant get him out of my head and he feels the same.God!!!! This could not get anymore complicated.....

[1aokgal]

Yes, it could get more complicated if you lie to yourself and think it is OK to have anything to do with this man. Sounds to me you are on a pity party and want to have a midlife crisis affair like you earned a vacation.

Here is how it goes...you are MARRIED. That means you owe loyalty and fidelity to your spouse. It is not like a shopping trip in the market where you get to squeeze other vegetables when you get bored. You will deeply regret straying into other waters for a good time and put your stability and life for grabs for a sexual encounter or a jolly emotional revving up. Do something with the spouse to zip up your marriage. Go have sex at the beach or do things you may not have done for awhile.

Sounds to me like you are shopping for a good time and don't know what you have of value there. There are so many women who would give all they own for a good marriage and a good man. Value what you have before you lose it. Don't have an infatuation with a stranger to bring drama to your life. Use your creative juices to put some play into your marriage.You will end up in a tragedy. Go read "Anna Karenina" or rent the video. Same scenario...bored wife and intriguing stranger end in big mess.

Be a women of Godly character who sticks through good times and bad times to her marriage vows. What will your children say of you one day that you threw a marriage down the drain so you could play at being single? Would you destroy two marriages to get a strange peice? Grow Up!