motherhood

[Coffeebean]

I can't see any of the people who helped me cope with the months of pregnancy whilst dealing with a troubled marriage but I just wanted to thank you all for your help and tell you that my little daughter was born on the 18th August weighing in at 6lb 14oz. Life has been very lovely since her birth. My mother was not there and although a little upset all prayers were answered and h and I grew stronger through Josie's birth.Being a mother is a very seriel experience. The love that is felt is so strong with an even stronger desire to protect her.
Even after only 3 weeks from her birth you cannot imagine life without her. I have been very lucky that Josie Louba Chappell is a perfect little girl with so much love to give and very easy to handle and manage. Coupled with the fact that my husband is so very hands on and supportive and my mum is so great - it makes being a mother very easy.
The only thing I miss is my ability to have a worry free night of sleep. Even in sleep (which is rare) you are still half awake in case she cries or the dog tries to sleep in her cot again :) I always loved my sleep and finding it hard to manage without it. However my husband will be back off work soon and I may be able to catch up on my afternoon naps without worry :)
I have so many plans for my little daughter and feel such a wealth of pride at the thought of having a daughter who is all mine. Even today at 11am when the little tinker has not let me put her down since 3am I still feel I could not do without her.
See there she is looking deceptively asleep but I know that as soon as i put her down she will open those beautiful eyes of hers and start crying to be picked up - see right on time with the la's - well her father can have her tommorrow as he's back off work.

I'll be going to grandma's in a couple of hours so she can have the little fuss pot and the hound from hell and i'll get to put my feet up with a cup of coffee and watch murder she wrote - oh happy day.


If any of you who helped and supported me through this are still there I just wanted to say a great big thank you for your help prayers and support. I will catch up on all your news once I have more than 5 mins at a time of peace :) I do pray that you are all coping with the difficulties that are going through your own lives and hope to catch up soon.

[Lauz]

Coffeebean - Congratulations. You sounds very happy, and I am so pleased for you. Your daughter sounds perfect! :)

[calmfornow]

Hello Coffeebean,

It's so nice to hear from you and that everything is going so well for you all. I'm so pleased that things are settling for you. Your life will never be the same again but I can tell from your post that you are thoroughly enjoying things. Just try to make sure that you get some time to yourself. The trip to your grandma's sounds like just the ticket. Enjoy Murder she wrote!!!:D Once again all the best and do keep us updated.
Take care,
cfn x

[outoftheblue]

Many many congratulations, I am so pleased for you. Motherhood seems to suit you as you sound so happy. I am delighted your H is being so hands on and possibly besotted with his little girl. Hopefully all the worry he gave you and all the fears he had will fade into the distance.

Enjoy every moment this is a truly special time for all of you and I send you all the love in the world

Take good care and enjoy daytime TV whenever you can!

Cxx

[aqua]

Coffeebean

******** CONGRATULATIONS ********

Great news!!
Enjoy every precious moment with your daughter.
I hope your husband has come to his senses too!

Aqua xx

[callow]

Hi Coffebean

Congratulations on the birth of little Josie. You sound totally besotted.

I do hope that your husband's fears have gone.

All the best

Sally

[Helen_uk]

Hi CB

First time i've visited the site in weeks and there you are announcing your wonderful news ! Congratulations hun !!!!!

I knew you'd love motherhood as you are such a caring person and I'm soooooooo glad to hear your H is as besotted with Josie as you are.

Strangely, my youngest son had his 18th bithday the day before Joise was born so as my youngest goes into adulthood, a new baby is born !

I wish you and H and little Josie all the happiness and contentment in the world. I know you're going to be busy from now on, put pop back when you can and give us a progress report, I'll sign in now and then to see how things are going for you , or if you want to email me it's helenrw2002@yahoo.co.uk.

Take good care hun.

Hugs
Helen xxxxxxxxxx

[AnnieP]

Coffeebean!
BRILLIANT news all round! Congratulations and big hugs to you and toe sucks to that beautiful baby girl....
xxxxxx

[Helen]

I haven't been here for nigh on a year but congratulations Coffeebean! I remember you from when you joined. I am so happy your daughter arrived safely. It sucks that your situation is the same though. Sorry, I am not ready to rejoin in a participative role yet but I lurk and I saw your news so congrats! Sincerely


Helen

[aqua]

Coffeebean

How's motherhood going?

It's been a long while since I had to do the baby thing. I think I've repressesd the sleepless night memories!! My eldest (12) was a poor sleeper until about three, but now he sleeps like the dead!

You know where we are - don't be a stranger.

Best regards
aqua

[sevenseas]

Congrats! we don't know each other but just wanted to say I am mother to a 15 month old, and I was also (still am) a lover of SLEEP..:D It will get easier as time goes on, don't worry. Having a helpful hubby certainly makes a difference, my H is awesome!! He loves his little girl so much and takes very good care of us.
Take care of Mom & baby....good to see you are going to get a little break at Grandma's.

[Coffeebean]

thank you so much for your reply i always love to talk to other mothers who have experience of babyhood. I'm not doing too badly. I haven't had any baby blues but have experienced great panic attacks I went to my doc today to discuss same and he advised me that unless I started hearing voices that no one else heard I was not to do anything about it???!!!! I can't work out if these panic attacks are similar to baby blues or whether it is just because of the problems I had with my marriage over the pregnancy. MY h is being totally great and really hands on romantic etc but I'm sure he is writing to his ex fiancee still although I am not asking I don't think anything is coming of it but I had such a strong desire to check his mobile yesterday becuase he was texting all day and when I asked to who he told me it was to a friend and looked surprised that I would have asked. Yet he is romantic and sweet great with the baby and the house is so nice and all the fighting this time last year is forgotten. I want to take something like nata calms but h doesn't want me to. I love motherhood J is a very placid baby although she is quite poorly at the moment . the panic could just be baby blues rather than anything my h is doing cause to be honest he isn't doing anything

[aqua]

Coffeebean

sounds like you're a natural! I hope baby J gets better soon. If you weren't a worrier before the baby, you'll be a worrier now! comes with motherhood.

Hope you don't mind me adding my thoughts here.

"went to my doc today to discuss same and he advised me that unless I started hearing voices that no one else heard I was not to do anything about it???!!!! "

Charming!!
Tell him the voices in your head are advising you to find a proper doctor.

Your panic attacks could be the result of all that stress you had to indure during your pregnancy. Especially now that you're in to a routine with the baby and husband is being attentive. I don't know - just a thought.

Of course you're going to be a bit edgy about your husband, it's natural after what you went through with him. He has to soothe your fears and show you he has settled down in to family life.

Take care

aqua