whathaveidone
5th September 2007, 10:58 PM
Hello i hope you can help.
i got married just over 3 weeks ago (been together nearly 3 yrs) and i am now feeling very trapped and that my life is over at 26. I still love my H but i dont want to get intimate with him, but i think this is due to the fact that sex is very one sided - i do all the work (which i do enjoy) but fore play is something that happens to other people not me. We have talked about this, but i dont see him really wanting to put in the effort. His sex drive has dwindled due to the medication he is on and i appreciate that but i want to feel desired and not felt like sex with me is a chore, and there is only so much rejection i can take. I know that sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship, but i didnt think it would be over for me at 26.
Our relationship hasnt been normal for a while - I have been the main carer for my partner for the last year due to an on going illness that resulted him in becoming disabled ( cant go into too much details) which has been such a stressfull time for both of us. He is able to continue life as normal however. We both had doubts before the wedding and if i were honest i dont think we should have got married.. And to add even more complication i ended up sleeping with some one else last weekend - so feel free to hurl abuse, but i dont think you can make me feel any worse than i do now. He doesnt know anything about my infidelity and i have no plan to tell him - it would make me feel less guilty but break his heart in the process. Were my actions on saturday a reaction to my less than loving sexlife or is it the fact that i am in fact a complete bitch with the morals of a sh*t-house rat?
is this just post wedding blues or should i reside myself to the fact that this marriage is almost over before its even begun... i am such a mess i cant eat, or sleep and im sure H is beginning to suspect somethings up.
Any help/advise/admonisment would be so welcomed...
i got married just over 3 weeks ago (been together nearly 3 yrs) and i am now feeling very trapped and that my life is over at 26. I still love my H but i dont want to get intimate with him, but i think this is due to the fact that sex is very one sided - i do all the work (which i do enjoy) but fore play is something that happens to other people not me. We have talked about this, but i dont see him really wanting to put in the effort. His sex drive has dwindled due to the medication he is on and i appreciate that but i want to feel desired and not felt like sex with me is a chore, and there is only so much rejection i can take. I know that sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship, but i didnt think it would be over for me at 26.
Our relationship hasnt been normal for a while - I have been the main carer for my partner for the last year due to an on going illness that resulted him in becoming disabled ( cant go into too much details) which has been such a stressfull time for both of us. He is able to continue life as normal however. We both had doubts before the wedding and if i were honest i dont think we should have got married.. And to add even more complication i ended up sleeping with some one else last weekend - so feel free to hurl abuse, but i dont think you can make me feel any worse than i do now. He doesnt know anything about my infidelity and i have no plan to tell him - it would make me feel less guilty but break his heart in the process. Were my actions on saturday a reaction to my less than loving sexlife or is it the fact that i am in fact a complete bitch with the morals of a sh*t-house rat?
is this just post wedding blues or should i reside myself to the fact that this marriage is almost over before its even begun... i am such a mess i cant eat, or sleep and im sure H is beginning to suspect somethings up.
Any help/advise/admonisment would be so welcomed...