Jboi_35
5th September 2007, 08:41 PM
Hi folks,
I've lurked for a while reading some interesting posts and responses and thought I'd finally come out from the shadows to say Hi and see what you might have to say about me and my little situation....
In short, my wife left me after 1.5 years of marriage (8 years of being together)
The longer story is that I came home from work one Friday at the end of June to find that she had left. I pulled into the drive an noticed her car was not there. Thinking that our daughter might be unwell I expected a note in the house saying such and such...and to call or meet up somewhere. When I opened the front door to the porch, there was an envelope with my name on it, (alarm bells start ringing), I pick it up and can tell there is keys in it (Veyr loud and bad alarm bells). I remeber opening it and holding my breathe - I kinda think I knew what might be there but of course you do not want to believe it.
Out spilled her keys and joint account card (cut in half) and a letter that pretty much said 'I love you but can't live with you', 'I don't like X Y and Z'.....
Well, I was devastated...I have described the pain as would have been no worse than if I came in and found her dead in a pool of blood.....
Anyway, I found out she had taken much of her own stuff from the house and nearly all our daughters clothes. I didn't see it coming at the time but looking back there were many signs that I was just an idiot not to see...
There is more to this but I don't want to bore everyone! Needless to say I found out she is staying (sleeping with) someone who had been a 'friend' for about 8 years (someone I think she always had a soft spot for). It is amicable right now and I have filed for divorce. The house is about to be sold on the open market and I have been left to try and clean up / pack up everything (or so it feels).
If you ask nicely I might even tell you what her complaints were....I just don't know if some of them were just ways to 'justify' her behaviour....at 35 I feel/felt like I had been thrown out with the rubbish.....
I think I am handling things quite well. I do get down and fedup but very strangely I have felt very little anger about things....? Why is that?
Well, here's hoping I can get through this.
Thanks for listening....
I've lurked for a while reading some interesting posts and responses and thought I'd finally come out from the shadows to say Hi and see what you might have to say about me and my little situation....
In short, my wife left me after 1.5 years of marriage (8 years of being together)
The longer story is that I came home from work one Friday at the end of June to find that she had left. I pulled into the drive an noticed her car was not there. Thinking that our daughter might be unwell I expected a note in the house saying such and such...and to call or meet up somewhere. When I opened the front door to the porch, there was an envelope with my name on it, (alarm bells start ringing), I pick it up and can tell there is keys in it (Veyr loud and bad alarm bells). I remeber opening it and holding my breathe - I kinda think I knew what might be there but of course you do not want to believe it.
Out spilled her keys and joint account card (cut in half) and a letter that pretty much said 'I love you but can't live with you', 'I don't like X Y and Z'.....
Well, I was devastated...I have described the pain as would have been no worse than if I came in and found her dead in a pool of blood.....
Anyway, I found out she had taken much of her own stuff from the house and nearly all our daughters clothes. I didn't see it coming at the time but looking back there were many signs that I was just an idiot not to see...
There is more to this but I don't want to bore everyone! Needless to say I found out she is staying (sleeping with) someone who had been a 'friend' for about 8 years (someone I think she always had a soft spot for). It is amicable right now and I have filed for divorce. The house is about to be sold on the open market and I have been left to try and clean up / pack up everything (or so it feels).
If you ask nicely I might even tell you what her complaints were....I just don't know if some of them were just ways to 'justify' her behaviour....at 35 I feel/felt like I had been thrown out with the rubbish.....
I think I am handling things quite well. I do get down and fedup but very strangely I have felt very little anger about things....? Why is that?
Well, here's hoping I can get through this.
Thanks for listening....