Hi everyone!! (Update...)

[Monica_V]

Hi guys!!

Gosh it's been sooooooo long once I last posted... I can honestly say I wouldn't be the woman I am today without the help and continued support I received from you guys, so I'd like to raise my glass and offer a round of applause to all of you ... you know who you are!! Thank you, truly...

Now, for a bit of an update for those of you who remember me and a bit of hope for those of you who don't!! ;)

I can barely believe it's only been 6 months since I kicked my LEECH (Lying Egocentric Execrable Cheating Husband, for those of you who are not familiar with my lingo....) out!!

He's certainly no closer to being a decent human being, quite the opposite, but I have soared to new heights, I am happier now than I ever thought possible, and this is after every crappy thing you can imagine coming my way!! Imagine if things had been easy...

I have certainly gone through every possible emotion and feeling in life's roller coaster in the past 6 months, but despite the aftershock of the lies and deceit surfacing after my break up, my trying to put up a brave face only to crumble shortly after, my honest to God feeling better but then having my house broken into while I was inside (and waking up to find a strange man in my bedroom!! SCARY....) and quite naturally suffering a regression of sorts after that ... I can now say life's good.

Oh, don't get me wrong, life still pretty much sucks for the most part, my ex is still a no-good-useless-pile-of-crap who continues to go into debt and refuses to file for divorce, I only manage to sleep 3 or 4 hours straight without waking up in a panic thinking someone is in the room with me, but oh Lord, I am HAPPY!!

In a way it's like I'd been asleep for a very long time and now I'm finally awake, I am painfully (in a delightful way) aware of everything life has to offer and I can not be distracted from it by the misery my ex brings into my life, on the contrary, the more grief he bestows on me, the happier I feel I'm no longer responsible for him.

I must admit I have finally let someone in, a friend, a special friend, a friend "with benefits" if you will ... I cannot deal with anything more at this stage, but I am ever so grateful that I'm not dealing with anything less.

Mostly, I have reconnected with the woman I am, once was, and always will be, and I was so often denied the right to be, and I have found her to be quite formidable and sensitive, independent and forgiving, strong and full of love, despite everything.

I can't wait for the next chapter in this wonderful, challenging and sometimes scary adventure that is my life to unfold.... for now, I remain, as always ... happy!!

Mon xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

p.s.: I adopted a new motto shortly after the break in: "Life might make me wobble, but it's not about to bring me down just yet..."

[jools]

Hi Monica
Phew! To achieve all that in just 6 months is incredible! We are all so different in the way that we deal with things. I couldn't have been so upbeat after just 6 months - even after 12 months i'll settle for contented on my best days - but I don't think i'll be so convinced it rates as "happy" until I meet someone else. Certain things though struck a chord with me- like ... the more grief he bestows on me, the happier I feel I'm no longer responsible for him. My H is in financial freefall AGAIN but despite not getting money it makes me feel better that i'm no longer responsible for him. I can't wait for the next chapter in this wonderful, challenging and sometimes scary adventure that is my life to unfold.... Yep - that too. As dear old Natasha sings "The rest is still unwritten". Scary but also exciting. Good on you, Monica!
Jools XXXXX
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[Monica_V]

Hi Jools!!

It's great to know you're still here, your advice has always been so welcome and spot on!!

I feel a bit ashamed that I've been away for so long, but there was so much going on in my life I had to take the bull by the horns and just go at it... God knows I cannot trust my LEECH to do anything!!

His most important client has fired him, and he's practically bankrupt, so I can relate to your situation with your H.

I've been re-reading some of my early posts, both as Monica_V and the earlier ones, when I was Bothered & Bewildered (remember me then? you were a great help, as were Helen & Mike and so many others...) as a way to take stock of just how far I've come in such a short space of time, and it's almost like reading someone else's story, it somehow feels so disconnected from who I am now and where I am in my life ... I recognise my strength through and through in those posts, but whereas I thought I might come out of this hardened and bitter, I seem to have tapped into a forgotten source of tenderness and softness and affection, and that's one of the things that make me feel so happy.

How are things for you now?

Mon xxxxxxxxxx

[Ginger God]

Monica.....

Dont hold back darling...leech....he must be worse than that:rolleyes:.
Yup Im happy too...seem to have turned into a bit of a Lurv Machine:eek:.
Im nearly two years down the line and life is really good now...its amazing because when you are in the gutter you sometimes wonder if you can ever recover...but when your soon to be ex wife tells you that she cant trust her new man because she has found dodgy texts on his phone....you know you have won.....:p

Graham

[Monica_V]

Hi Graham,

ROFL!!

LEECH stands for Lying Egocentric Execrable Cheating Husband, an acronym I gave him back when I first discovered just how far and deep the deceptions, lies and betrayal went, and what do you know ... it's still relevant!!

Good for you on having become the Ginger God of lurve!! I'm not quite the Goddess just yet, but give me time...

We have most definitely won!! :D

Mon XX