Peaches
1st September 2007, 09:11 PM
Me and my husband got married on 11/04/00 and I new this was the beginning of a new life for us. Background: I have known my husband since 6th grade and we were got together at the age of 18 and we had 1 child together and I always knew this was the man I wanted to marry. Of course being young there was problems he cheated on me and we broke up but not before having our first child who is now 15 now. I moved to Ypsilanti and he found me 8 years ago, he showed up at my house and we went skating and we talked and everything came back and then we got married a year later. We talked about the mistake he made and he promised me he would never do that again that he was young and stupid and yeah I fell for that. We got married and I am thinking all is good yeah we had problems but nothing I thought would lead him to another woman until that day I found out he cheated on me and we worked through that and I thought okay we back on track again and then it happened again and we seperated. At this time I found out I was pregnant so I called him and we met in Wal Mart parking lot and he said to me if i had this baby i was ruining his life and so I walked away and I decided to have my child because it was what I wanted and we had a girl and he was there and so very happy and then a BOMBHELL hit 3 weeks later she stopped breathing and went into the hospital and she died 3 weeks later. Our family had been destroyed but it brought us closer than ever before and we are still healing today. Soon after that yeah I was pregnant again and it was a hard pregnancy because everything scared me and I was so frightened but here is when the pain happened I was at the end due in about 2 weeks and I went and got the mail and it was for my husband and it was a letter from the Prosecuting Attorney and I am thinking who is suing my husband so I opend it and it was a woman suing my husband for child support of nit just 1 but 2 kids and I read it and immediately I called him and he denied it and said it was not him and he didn't know this girl so I said I need to find out so I decided on Thursday I am going over to her house because i need to know is this true and what happens I go in the Hospital to have the baby so I tell my sister and other kids babysitter and they go over there while I am in the Hospital and they come back to tell me that the 4 now 5 year old doesnt look like him but the 2 now 3 year old looks like our daughter and I was so hurt I cried all night. When I came to him all he could say was there was apossibility the 2 yr. old could be but not the 4 year olds. I thought you know we were seperated at the time but what hurt me the most was our daughter that passed away and this boy were 6 months apart which means she was pregnant when I was. I eventually met her myself and she apologized and said she was told we were not together and I said how do you have a relationship nd not tell the person about the baby. She said when they talked he always always drunk and that they never talked about the baby. Now here we sre still together but my heart feels funny because I feel I should leave but I stay for the my kids. I feel as though if we weren't together he would play me the way he plays the other kids. Then I feel I am less of a woman by allowing him to not be apart of there lives. he has not even seen them but once and that was far away. i just want some advice on what am I doing. In one aspect i get from his father The Preacher you have to forgive him and then I get from myself yeah but I don't trust him and is that good for the relationship. Anyboby out there with any advice please help. I need good advice on this situation