Help Urgently Needed

[MariaChilvers]

Hi.

I need help, I've been with my husband for 7 years and married for 2, we have two boys 3 and 8 months, I'm from Ireland but living in England and have family here, for the last while things have not been great but yesterday he got annoyed with me because he shouted at me at what he said losing his game and when I shouted back he pinned me against the wall by the throat and when I tried to get him back he hit my head against the wall not too heard though, but what do I do, I phoned my mother today and told her and she said right walk out leave but he's not well health wise at the minute should I excuse this or go, he has never done this before threathened yeah but never laid a finger on me, I'm so confused and alone, I know I love him but I don't want this to go on after all I have children to think of, can anyone help me out there.

Thanks
Maria

[calmfornow]

Hi,
My only advice to you would be to get the hell out of there. You have two small children to think about. Don't make excuses for him, ok so he's not in good health at the moment, it doesn't excuse the fact that he has been violent to you. This is just the start. If you allow him to get away with it this time then who knows what will happen next time and there will be a next time.
Good luck,
cfn.

[IcingOnTheMoon]

Hi!
I absolutely agree with Calmfornow. Get out! If not for your safety, then for that of your children. He's healthy enough to hold a grown woman against the wall by her throat, right?? What's to say if the kids mess up his game he won't get physical with them? They're much littler than you! I'm very tolerant with men's stupid behavior, but physical abuse, as that's exactly what this is, is an absolute deal breaker!! Please, take care of yourself and your children!
Good luck!

[Bouncy]

You need to get out now!
The violence will probably escalate if he is allowed to get away with this.
Unfortunately it progresses slowly and before you know it you're trapped in a violent marriage lacking the self esteem to leave.
Think of the kids, do you want them living with a man like that.