nineteend
28th August 2007, 06:46 PM
Im in Iraq and im just about done with my tour here. We are very fortunate to have internet and alot of comodities that alot of other FOB's dont have. Anyway, for that reason my wife and I talk pretty regularly. Now, im a Scout, so I go outside the wire just about everyday and do some pretty crazy sh*t. So its extremely important for me to be focused on what im doin at all times. One morning (night for my wife) we had a really good conversation that left me feeling great for the mission I was about to go on, just a really great web cam conversation. It was her birthday that night also and she had plans to go see a show with her friends, which are my friends too since we both hang around the same crowd pretty much. So I go out on mission, catch some bad guys,get shot at, shoot back, and when I get back it's late afternoon (roughly 6:00am for my wife). My instant messenger lets me send her messages to her phone and even if shes offline she'll get it when she logs on. So I send her a couple messages, you know, hope you had a good time, im back from mission safe and sound, that kinda stuff. Well she messages me back and I can tell shes still wasted and all the sudden I get this really sh*ity feeling in my stomach and I already knew what had happened before she said anything. This is what went down. She went out and partied with her friends, one of my close friends, or so I thought, shows up to hang out. Apperently while ive been gone he started selling cocaine, which absolutely discusts me since ive had more than enough experiences with that **** and, those kinda people. So here it is August and this guys been selin sh*t since almost right after I left in November which NO ONE has bothered to tell me. Anyway this guy shows up and asks my wife if she wants to go to his house and hang out with him and his wife. My wife agrees and goes over there, he offers her coke, she accepts, and bam. Come to find out this isnt the first time and shes been going over there taking my son along too. Its the end of Aug. and he's almost 5 months old. So I get her to tell me she did the coke and let her know just how pissed off I am. We've had disscussions about this kinda sh*t before and she knew exactly how I felt about the sh*t. So not only did she comletely neglect my instructions but what if something would have happeed to my son across town at her mom's? She showed zero commitment to this relationship, to our son, to our marriage, to my life and career and I just dont really know what to do. I mean if I cant focus out in the field I could get myself or others kiled or worse. Aside from this incident shes the greatest wife ever and a really great mother. She takes care of everything while im over here without me having to worry about anything.....well until now. Ive already told her that I forgive her and told her if anything even remotely like this happens again we're done. Told her she is not to have any contact whatsoever with the guy or anyone associated with him. But I still cant help thinking about it and wanting to let her know how bad she hurt me everyday. Im seeking advice on how to further handle the situation and what I should do about the guy that sells the sh*t, my new enemy.