what else can hurt me?

[claudia.35]

I have already posted a thread on here titled my husband left me for a friend. When I think I possibly cant get hurt anymore and the situation can't get worse, something happens to make me feel alwful. This morning in my post were mortgage agreements for my H and the OW. They are buying a house together which I knew! Firstly, I thought how could they be so malicious as to send that to my house and then secondly the house they have bought is one I fell in love with myself!

I have hated the fact that I knew everything about the OWs house, as she was once a friend so I knew the house well. I could picture my H in the house with her and picture them in the bedroom! Now they have a new house, and I will be able to picture that too! I viewed the house and desperately wanted to buy it with the children, but as it was still in the area decided against it, plus would have been a stretch to afford it. I know all the rooms again, and my children know the house too! I just can't believe my bad luck, and out of all the houses they had to buy that one! It may sound silly and pathetic, but I can't bear the thought of them having the house I wanted. I guess it wouldn't really matter what house it is, I just hate the fact they are living together.

I feel so low again, they are moving on so quickly and seem so happy. I am miserable and stuck with a house I cannot sell!

Help!:mad:

[calmfornow]

Hi Claudia,
I have been following your sitch and now feel compelled to reply.
I have to say the two of them sound soooo pathetic. They do seem so well matched ( Sorry if that hurts you but your h is not the man you married anyway ). I think the ow is/was jealous of your life and this is coming across so clearly from your posts. You need to dust yourself off and stand proud. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Take the moral high ground at all times because you have more integrity in your little finger than these two sad excuses have in their entire bodies. Do not let them hurt you with their games. Their situation will not last but you have to look after yourself and your children. Do what you need to do in order to make your life easier. Move away if that will help and enlist help from your family and friends. Show the sad pair that you're not really bothered about what they do. They are trying to rub your nose in it. Don't let them. can you send the letter back with " no longer at this address " emblazoned across the front?!
Keep strong Claudia,
cfn. x

[claudia.35]

Thank you for taking the time to reply. You're probably right the OW was probably jealous of me, but why I don't know. She had a H who adored her was very well off financially, a lovely house and 2 kids. I guess that wasn't enuff, she wanted my h too! I am doing my best to show them I don't care, but the truth is I do, I would take him back tomorrow if he came grovling. But I know that wont happen, he has made that very clear. He has moved on and wants me to too, but I don't know how, when it's all in my face so much. I will move away when my house sells and will start a life for me. I just wish to god him & her didn't have to be a part of it too!

You will be glad to know I took the letters round the OWs house and she was shocked as hell to see me on her doorstep. I handed them to her and told her she was pathetic!

Things can only get better right?

xx

[calmfornow]

Good for you Claudia. Your h will one day see that he has shacked up with a shallow woman although he is obviously just as shallow! He will one day regret leaving behind the strong woman who kept things real. Don't allow them to rub your nose in it. Look after yourself and your kids. :)
cfn. x