hurt and confused

[bettyboo]

my husband and i have been married for nearly 7 years. lately i found text messages on his phone from another girl that were extremely dirty. one of them said "next time you have sex with your wife think of me", which really dented my trust and self esteem. i confronted him about the texts and he said they were just texts and nothing has happened. he also said that the texts had stopped. a couple of days ago i found another text from the same girl. i dont know what to do or whether to believe him or not. we have talked and both said we will change for the good in our relationship and try to spend more time as a couple. i still feel like something is still bugging me and wondering if he is doing this to keep me quiet so to speak. i really want our marriage to work, as i love him very much. i dont know what to do for the best, any advise or similar experiences appreciated.

[bettyboo]

hi, this is only my second post and have had no replys, so i just thought id add a few things. we have 2 children ( 4 and 5 ) and dont really get alot of us time hence the making more time together. i have so many things rolling round my head its untrue, like is he still texting her and deleting any evidence, does he really go to the gym or does he meet her, does he think of her when we have sex. he said that he has not had sex with her or even met up with her it was just texts. i just dont know how to deal with this without him getting annoyed when i bring it up, as we did say that we wanted to put it in the past and move on, but i dont think i can without all the real answers and the truth. i need to know how to approach this and what to say. please help.

[jools]

Hi Betty
If you've seen the texts, presumably you've had access to her phone number. Why haven't you rung her to introduce yourself and ask what her game is? That's certainly what i'd do.
Jools
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[Ginger God]

Hes extracting the urine from you..punch him straight between the eyes..put his clothes in the street..tell him he will be hearing from your lawyer...then move on..he aint worth it.
Life is too short.

[AnnieP]

I agree. Get this girls number and ring her. Threaten her with death or worse.
If your H is serious about helping you, ask hm to change his phone number. Also ask yourself why is he leaving them on his phone for you to find?