Help in trying to get a friend back with her ex?

[MartinLondonUK]

Hi all,

I beg your pardon for interupting, but I am looking for some advice on behalf of a friend of mine. Her name is Charlotte, she has just recently turned 21 and she lives and works in Berkshire, England.

She recently split with her ex lover in an age gap relationship. Her ex is in fact her immediate boss at work and they both work within the same department in their company. The company is a call centre type operation.

Charlotte feels that everything is mutual between them and they get on well. She feels though that he left her because he felt too threatened about her age. That, as I understand, is the reason for the split.
It is really affecting her and she wishes she can change his mind? She now hates weekends as she is not able to see him at this time too. She does not feel she can move on and the one thing she really wants is to be reunited with her ex.

So this is where I come in. I put this question to you on her behalf as you are all experienced in terms of relationships? Is there anything you can suggest based on what you have read here that might be able to bring them back together? If you was in her positiion, what would you say to her ex to get him to change his mind?

If you have any questions or need more information then I will be pleased to relay any requests to Charlotte. But please note, answers may take a little time to feed through.

All constructive comments are welcomed and if it makes her happy by giving her the result she wants it will be worth doing and worthy of your time.

Lets hope for the best! Now it is over to you.

Thanks a lot,

Martin

[IcingOnTheMoon]

Hi Martin!
How much older is her boss? My H and I are 11 years apart and really, age hasn't made a difference to us. Any issues we had/have in our marriage have nothing to do with age. I can see how her boss would be self-conscious about it though....If that really is the reason for the split, it's just going to boil down to trust. He needs to trust that if she didn't want to be with him, she wouldn't be. Easier said than done though. Good luck to her!

[MartinLondonUK]

Iceing,

Thanks for the answer, it was the iceing on the cake. Seriously, it is the best answer so far - I have posted on some other forums too and some of the answers are a lot worse...

Not entirely sure on his exact age but its about the same age bracket as you.

I will forward your comments on. Again, thanks for the input.

Martin

[calmfornow]

Hello Martin,
Perhaps her boss is married.............................

[MartinLondonUK]

Calmfornow,

I can confirm the boss is not married.

Martin

[Raymond]

So it boils down to being threatened by her age. In what way would her age be a threat?

Raymond

[MartinLondonUK]

You tell me, she is as puzzled as I am. Only he can know the exact reason. As I say, everything is mutual, they like each other really well, but when it crosses the line for a relationship the age seems to be holding him off.

Age gap relationships are like any others in the sense that part of the equation is how other people feel around you? I had that experience in my first (and only) relationship...:(

Martin

[claudia.35]

Hi Martin

Is her ex worried about compromising his position at work? Maybe he is scared of getting the sack? Age shouldn't really be an issue, not if their feelings are mutual. I hate to say this but could her boss be using age as an excuse do you think?

good luck cupid!

cx