shell01
7th August 2007, 02:45 PM
hi,
This is my first time doing this kind of thing.
Been with my hubby for 17 years, married for 12 yrs, got 1 child a boy aged 9. Like many others we've had our ups and downs, (that is part of a marriage) but over the past year it seems to me that we are drifting apart. He's very cold towards me, unable to show his feelings. This is not like him at all, he is a very reliable man, thats why i married him, he's not one of these men who looks at other women, he likes us to do things together. But over the past 3 months he's acting very strange, he can't come near me, if i try to talk to him he gets very angry with me, there has'nt been any sex. There is a young girl across the street from us, she has 4 kids, all have different fathers, he seems to be talking to her alot, he's watching her house to see if is about, as soon as she comes out he is straight across to her. He is been very nice to her kids, and not so nice to his own boy.I have asked him about her, he says he is just been nice.If she drives past he stands there waving like a love struck teenager. She has lived up here for 10 years, and he's never spoken to her before.He says its all in my head.(but i'm not to sure) 2 nights ago i woke him at 2am to try to sort things out, he says we are going through a bad patch and it will get better, just let things sort themselves out, don't push it.(whatever that means). I cant eat anything, feel very low, crying all the time. Don't want to lose him. Havent sleeped properly for 2 months, im totally warn out with all this. Can't think straight, all i can think about is that he is going to leave me. He did tell me that he has been thinking what it would be like to be on his own. he is 39 maybe it's a mid life crisis he's having, i don't know. maybe has grown bored off me, wants somebody younger and prettier. Not sure what to do , is it in head or not.
REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE
This is my first time doing this kind of thing.
Been with my hubby for 17 years, married for 12 yrs, got 1 child a boy aged 9. Like many others we've had our ups and downs, (that is part of a marriage) but over the past year it seems to me that we are drifting apart. He's very cold towards me, unable to show his feelings. This is not like him at all, he is a very reliable man, thats why i married him, he's not one of these men who looks at other women, he likes us to do things together. But over the past 3 months he's acting very strange, he can't come near me, if i try to talk to him he gets very angry with me, there has'nt been any sex. There is a young girl across the street from us, she has 4 kids, all have different fathers, he seems to be talking to her alot, he's watching her house to see if is about, as soon as she comes out he is straight across to her. He is been very nice to her kids, and not so nice to his own boy.I have asked him about her, he says he is just been nice.If she drives past he stands there waving like a love struck teenager. She has lived up here for 10 years, and he's never spoken to her before.He says its all in my head.(but i'm not to sure) 2 nights ago i woke him at 2am to try to sort things out, he says we are going through a bad patch and it will get better, just let things sort themselves out, don't push it.(whatever that means). I cant eat anything, feel very low, crying all the time. Don't want to lose him. Havent sleeped properly for 2 months, im totally warn out with all this. Can't think straight, all i can think about is that he is going to leave me. He did tell me that he has been thinking what it would be like to be on his own. he is 39 maybe it's a mid life crisis he's having, i don't know. maybe has grown bored off me, wants somebody younger and prettier. Not sure what to do , is it in head or not.
REALLY NEED SOME ADVICE