jo71
6th August 2007, 08:04 PM
I haven't posted in several months. Helen, how are you hun? I'm still praying for sunshine for you! Coffeebean, I've thought about you often...hoping things go well with you and the little one. Hi to everyone that I haven't chatted with in a while, and to those I haven't met.
Things for me are going as good as they could I guess. H and I are in the final stages of the divorce. All that remains is now for him to file the paperwork with the courts...everything is signed, agreements are settled, the ball's in his court now. I've cooperated for the kids sake...and I guess for my own sake too. Everything between us is 99% amicable...there's occasionally a little tension under the surface, but we have taken the high road and have not turned this into an ugly situation. It has been easy getting over him, because he's not the man that I was in love with anymore. Financially, as always, he is taking good care of me and the kids. But emotionally, as always, he's just not there. He has little interest in seeing our kids (16 and 12 now), and that deeply saddens me. However, I never thought I would be able to do it, but I've pulled it together and the kids and I are dealing with it pretty well.
I started dating a few months ago, and right away met someone and am crazy about this person and I feel so comfortable with him. I'm so worried that I'm "rebounding" though (whatever that means). But he's crazy about me and my kids too, and I hate to get too logical and put the brakes on a relationship that feels like such a good thing. He wants for him and his daughter (6 yo) to move in with me and my kids, and he wants to be a father figure to them. And as much as that would help me emotionally and financially, for my kids sake, I'm not going to do that for a while...I think that would be too much too soon for them. Their dad has already moved his gf in with him, and they hate that.
Anyway, just wanted to pop in for a bit and say hello and see how everyone is doing. I can't read up on all the posts, but just know that I think of you all often and hope all is well with everyone.
Jo
Things for me are going as good as they could I guess. H and I are in the final stages of the divorce. All that remains is now for him to file the paperwork with the courts...everything is signed, agreements are settled, the ball's in his court now. I've cooperated for the kids sake...and I guess for my own sake too. Everything between us is 99% amicable...there's occasionally a little tension under the surface, but we have taken the high road and have not turned this into an ugly situation. It has been easy getting over him, because he's not the man that I was in love with anymore. Financially, as always, he is taking good care of me and the kids. But emotionally, as always, he's just not there. He has little interest in seeing our kids (16 and 12 now), and that deeply saddens me. However, I never thought I would be able to do it, but I've pulled it together and the kids and I are dealing with it pretty well.
I started dating a few months ago, and right away met someone and am crazy about this person and I feel so comfortable with him. I'm so worried that I'm "rebounding" though (whatever that means). But he's crazy about me and my kids too, and I hate to get too logical and put the brakes on a relationship that feels like such a good thing. He wants for him and his daughter (6 yo) to move in with me and my kids, and he wants to be a father figure to them. And as much as that would help me emotionally and financially, for my kids sake, I'm not going to do that for a while...I think that would be too much too soon for them. Their dad has already moved his gf in with him, and they hate that.
Anyway, just wanted to pop in for a bit and say hello and see how everyone is doing. I can't read up on all the posts, but just know that I think of you all often and hope all is well with everyone.
Jo