Need Help

[jonesy]

I need help. I have been trying to save my marriage and I don't know what to do. My wife is an alcoholic or a drunk, one or the other, and I don't know what to do. she will not seek help because, she says, she would have to quit dirnking. My problem, she is very abusive. If she makes a mistake she tells people that I ******up. She will not take responsibility. Everytime I ask her a question she says "do whatever you want to do". I cannot bear to hear her total lack of interest. I am miserable, 73 years old. She is 58. I think that one obstacle is ; that she has money and I do not. She is quick to tell people about that. We have not had sex in three years because she has no interest at all.
Please give me some advice. I think that I should just leave.
Jonesy

[beachcomber]

jonesy, I feel your pain...I was involved with an alcoholic for a number of years, my father was also alcoholic. It is a frustrating, scarey, hopeless place to be. I want you to know there is help out there, for both of you but YOU can only help YOU....you cannot force her to get help. Have you ever heard of Al-Anon? If you are ready for help, call your local chapter and you will find people who have experienced what you have and will give you hope. I am a member and I have found hope, peace, serenity in this group, beyond what I could have imagined.
Remember, you did not cause her drinking, you cannot cure it, and you cannot CONTROL it.
if you want to chat more, please feel free to email me at camelot82@hotmail.com.
Take care.