Please help me!

[skyte]

Where do I start?? From the beginning is a good start. My boyfriend cheated on back in December 06 and the woman who he had the one night stand is now pregnant, claiming it is his. Before my boyfriend and I meet there was together for a short period of time (2 months) it was just sex, but she become obsessed with him. Since we have been together she has emailed, texted and phoning him, after awhile she did give up then he cheated!! We plan to do a DNA test to make sure he is the father, but there both have children already and I dont have any!! I want to have children of my own one day, but I dont think my partner will has he will have 2 children, by 2 different woman. I love my boyfriend dearly and I dont want to finish things, but I am going out of my mind in what to do for the best for me.
I have tired to walk away, when i first found out that he cheated and she was pregnant, but I stayed, because I love him so much.

[Annie2]

Hi,
I'm so sorry to hear this. I really admire you for having the strength to stick by your boyfriend. You didn't mention his feelings in any of this and I wonder just how remorseful or how supportive he is being to you.
I really understand what it is like to love someone so much despite what hurt and devastation they cause in your life. It's difficult to explain how you can still love someone who does this but unless you've been there you don't understand. I also know how hard it is to see what life would be like without them. Obviously without all this stress you would be happy with him but sadly this situation is not going to go away and instead it will develop. If the child is his, what are his plans, will he want to support this woman, be at the birth and so on. These are things which as painful as they are to face up you need to consider. Just how much are you willing and able to do for this man?
I'm so sorry I'm sounding a bit bleak. You sound like a very strong person although I don't for one minute believe this is easy for you. Without sounding sympathetic to the other woman I imagine for her it must be quite awful too. If she is alone and pregnant her natural instinct will be to seek the help of the father...have a happy ending so to speak. To say she is obsessed she sounds more desperate. Did she know that your boyfriend was not and is not single?
Have you been able to talk to anyone about your situation? Talking it through can be exhausting and sometimes even more confusing but it can also offload all the worry and stress enough to clear your mind and help you make decisions.
No one can tell you what to do but I do hope that you are able to make positive decsions for yourself and not just for him. This is your life and only you can choose how you want it to be. So far your boyfriend has probably changed it in a negative way so you must be very sure that this wont' always be the case.
Please take care and post again,
Annie xx