my marrige is about to end because of the internet

[janeshell]

hi i dont no what to do???? my husband thinks more of his games than me. He still works hard but all his spare time he sits on the pc we have no time on our own. He never comes to bed before 4am, i feel like its all gone when we first meet he would not leave me along but now thats gone i cant do this anymore i need someone that wants me and to share things in life not a pc please someone help me

[Raymond]

Are you sure it is all games Janseshell and not something worse. If it is just games he sounds immature, but not too serious as it could pass, especially as you can have input or maybe counselors if he is too addicted to games.

Raymond

[tes uk]

hi janeshell,

sorry your feeling so low. this may seem a stupid question but have you spoke to him about how you feel....

how does he justify the time spent on thecomputer

[mc999]

hi janeshell,

sorry your feeling so low. this may seem a stupid question but have you spoke to him about how you feel....

how does he justify the time spent on thecomputer

my husband spends an awful lot of time on the computer as well. He does work very hard but recently I accidently discovered that he has a female friend in america whom he is in regular contact with and who is having her own marriage difficulties because her husband spends too much time on the computer. I find it very difficult to understand how he can relate to her marriage and yet he cannot see his own falling apart

[Raymond]

Does he close down when you are about mc or is he quite open about it?

It's not actually wrong to communicate with the opposite sex on a forum like I am communicating with you now, but if we are cummunicating personally with the opposite sex then temptation can present itself, though not necessarily. I believe you have enough of a red light there to gently voice a little concern. After all if the woman is in a bad marriage then she will be vulnerable and may say what a lovely fellow he is and how you understand me more than my husband etc. etc.
It's easily done. We all have weaknesses and can be flattered and have to watch ourselves if we want to stay happy in marriage.

Raymond

[1aokgal]

There is a way to find out all the websites and places on the internet as temporary files in your computer. If you track this you may find his "games" are porn sites and chat rooms. I heard so many marriages end because one of them leave with some body they meet on the internet. There is also cyber-sex. Now that one totally mystifies me but I guess if one wants to be excited over a keyboard ...it is possible. It is a very strange world today.

I doubt your husband is playing games but is having talks with available women. I knew of several cases here where women met their internet buddies online for afternoon sex and they were married. One of these women was an acquaintance and her husband kicked her out. Chat lines are the latest craze for hookups so find out what is going on there. A call to a PC store or ask a real computer person and they will show you how to get the info. Even if the husband deletes the info when you walk in the room, there is a record of his online interests.

Better to find out what you are dealing with than to get and ugly surprise.