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[Unregistered]

Need help...I grew up in broken home and saw a lot of abuse. I have not abused my children nor my wife and will not. I am concerned that I am losing her. Our marriage is not perfect but it is ok. She recently started going to our track and running, stair climbing or lifting weights. Another guy who appears only to talk with women has started to run with her. He has been seen with other young girls, goes to other womens houses, and is not married. I am concerned because I have a bad feeling about him (bad vibes). My wife has stated that there is nothing there and will not be anything there. The other guy is real religious and treats women nice. Should I worry or let it pass???? HELP!!!

[Kate]

It's not unusual to be anxious when your wife is spending a lot of time with another guy, but part of marriage is surely learning to trust one another. There's an article about trust (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/relbasictopic/trust/) on the site, but it focuses on rebuilding it after infidelity. Still there might be something there that can help.

The other thing that strikes me from your posting is that you recognise things could be better between you. Well that's true of most marriages. We all need to be working at our relationship and not take things for granted. Marriage Enrichment weekends (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/servprov/) are a great way to build up communication, understanding and trust.

No harm in being aware of what's going on with this other man, but why not focus on the positives in your marriage.