What would you do in my situation?

[Dell Boy]

Hi Everyone,

Need some guidance please, long suspected my wife has been having an affair but have chose to ignore it but we all know you cant, it just creeps up on you and you end up thinking about it all the time,so here go's, on Easter Sunday I was using my wife's car and decided to clear out the rubbish in the front passenger footwell, I found a note written on a old car park ticket, it said " Hi ****, I see you are working late, send me text if you know who Iam. Im the one who helps you out when your_____gets hungry, I deliberately left out the word at the end since he did also. I know who it is, now this guy has a house he stays in close to ours during the week and a main home a little way away where he lives with his long term girlfriend, my wife knows him from the pub she works in, I told the other day to be careful of him but she just went on and on about him only being a friend and someone she talks to, oh please I thought, you must think I'm completly stupid, now here is the dilemna, what do I do with the note, I could
A Post it to him and tell him to back off
B Send it to his girlfriend
C Confront my wife with it next time she says he is just a friend
D Something of your suggestion.

The missing word at the end is sexual of course, for the record we have been married 14 years and together for 21 years, she has cheated in the past, I'm caught between the devil and the deep on this one, please help. If I tried to speaking to her she would just ignore it and make up some excuse.

Thanks

Dell Boy

[caspian101]

First of all I want to let u know I have been.....
It is a must that u insist that u know without a doubt she is more than friends with him. Also u need to set her down and find out where the problem actually lies in the marriage.Affairs don't just happen, there is always something that triggers it. Ask her where she feels there is a lack in the marriage rather it be sexually or just in general. Be sure that u are making her feel that she is what u want, and that the two of u are having plenty of quality time together.... My self after 15yrs of marriage this happen to me and spirtually speaking I was weak to the enemy of my soul. Not sure if this will help just make it a point that it is either u or him. Don't let her use u or put u on a guilt trip. U are just going to have to be very blunt she took those vows as well as u did.
And with our LORD and SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST there is nothing that you can't handle.

May God Bless u and your marriage:) file:///C:/DOCUME%7E1/library9/LOCALS%7E1/Temp/moz-screenshot.jpg