dreams

[Coffeebean]

ok guys any of you good at dream anayalsis here's mine from last night - i dreamt that i was in bed with a man (not h) we were about to embark on having an affair - suddenly i remembered i was married and metioned this to man(no idea who he was) decided i didn't care as my h had left me months ago and gone to the lake district (no idea why there) but i was distinctly uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping with a man who was not my h as i never have. Phone rang and it was my mother i was crying i didn't know what to do she reminded me i was still a married woman and expecting our child to knock it off and go home. I then woke up and found my h sleeping next to me.

So what do you think? I found it pretty weird. I really feel my mum stopped me from doing something stupid but it was just a dream right? Maybe its because i do sometimes feel that although my h is right next to me he's not really with me so maybe this has just come out in my subconsious. Strangly enough i always feel this way when h is doing his 4 days in work i'll see how i feel on saturday when he does his 4 days off work.

Told h when i woke up he just said he bet other guy was thrilled that i took a call from my mother whilst we were in a room together!!! But he always feels i take my dreams too seriously.

Just a dream or subconsious telling me i feel the marriage is over?

[jo71]

Weird CB. I laughed at your h's response though. lol I have had a lot of dreams lately too. I don't try to interpret them much, but I have noticed that I have remembered mine a lot more lately. Tornadoes...that's my main theme lately. Must mean chaos in my life...makes sense. I know that when I was "happily" married, even then I sometimes had dreams that I was with an o/m. Woke up and was happy to find it was just a dream!
Jo

[Hopeful0788]

A lot of times when we dream of having an affair it is actually our subconcience trying to let us know something is going on with our partner or that in waking life you suspect something is going on. In your case I (i am not an expert but believe strongly in dreams) - it sounds like you are dreaming of your h's actions (some type of betrayal to you not necessarily an affair) and you are wondering where is his belief in right and wrong or why doesn't he feel strongly enough to keep from betraying you. The reason I say this is because in your dream you are about to have an affair but you know it is not right and you are thinking of stopping yourself then the phone rings - (your concience here portraying itself as your mother who raised you to know the difference in right and wrong) and lets you know even further that what is going on is not right and should not be happening.

Perhaps this is a gentle reminder that whatever your h has put you through is not right and you are trying to forget or overcome it but deep down you are struggling with your belief that he did something very wrong and you are having difficulty letting it go or are concerned that it may still be happening????

Don't know if this helps at all but I used to have a very similar dream and this was close to the interpretation that I received.

[2ruTexan]

I'm not sure about the whole dream stuff, mainly because I am a WILD dreamer but I do know that women who are pregnant dream alot and more vividly. Probably a combination of not sleeping as soundly, harmones, fears about the pregnancy, etc. I wouldn't worry a bunch about dreams at this point but that's just me.

[Raymond]

Coffebean wrote

suddenly i remembered i was married and mentioned this to man(no idea who he was) decided i didn't care as my h had left me months ago and gone to the lake district (no idea why there) but i was distinctly uncomfortable with the idea of sleeping with a man who was not my h as i never have. Phone rang and it was my mother i was crying i didn't know what to do she reminded me i was still a married woman and expecting our child to knock it off and go home.

I think it was a good check on you being adulterous. OK you were only dreaming but there could be a message there for you perhaps from God. Has anyone been praying for you?

I know a lot of dreams are just dreams, but occasionally God can speak through dreams, so can the other side, but you have to discern which.

I think there could be a direct message there even a warning perhaps for you. If it was God, and don't discount that, it will always be for our benefit in the long run.

Raymond

[jools]

Hi Coffeebean
Dreams are our brain's way of sorting out our issues. You were reacting to the fact that you don't feel as married as you should. So then you tried out being with someone else (just to see) but our inhibitions still seem to be switched on while we dream. Your mother was your Jimminy Cricket - or your conscience (as our mothers often are). Our brains need to try out "what if" scenarios just to prepare us. You obviously feel that the marriage is under threat or you wouldn't have had that dream. Dreams are not usually premonitions - they're just our way of dealing with emotions and issues.
Jools
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[Coffeebean]

thank you all so much for your input to answer raymond's question i do have a l ot of people praying for us but more prayers are always gratefully appreciated :)

I'd have to agree that i must be my subconsious i had another dream the other night that i was now kissing my h but then we have had some very pleasant days cause h can now feel the baby kicking and she responds to his voice. Isn't it trying these marriages i hope you are all doing ok x