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farny
23rd April 2007, 09:42 PM
We've been married nearly 13 years,together for 16. Like all couples we've had our fair share of troubles including depression suffered by both at different times, miscarraige and fir along time we've been sleeping seperatly, (not through choice on my part). We could not talk without feeling very uncomfortable.
I took along time to realize how stupid we have been and i have tried so hard to put things right. I thought we would somehow claw things back. But then last week she told me that it's too late. things have gone on too long and she cannot move on from these thoughts. She also told me of an interest in someone else. She says nothing has happened, and it's all on a mental level, but he has asked her to move in.
We don't argue, we are good friends. But it is over. I don't want it to be over. We have two lovely children who are taking it all very well, but i can't stand this sadness, that it's all gone.

fluffer
23rd April 2007, 10:54 PM
Well I don't know.? The problem seems to be that you feel uncomfortable talking, and you say you don't argue. Some times you need a good barney to clear the air, and maybe because you don't disscuss your problems she thinks you don't care? I know myself some times I want to see a bit of passion, a bit of spark. I'm not saying have a screeming row, but have you sat down and really hashed this out? How can you really be good friends if you can't talk to each other about really important things, she can get small talk any were.
I really wish you good luck, you sound like a careing guy who really loves your wife. I hope you save your marrage..

farny
24th April 2007, 01:33 AM
Thanks for comments. There have been so many problems we've faced together and thought maybe that's enough to keep us strong. To be honest, although i love my wife with all my heart, we have, i admit just sadly drifted apart. We have spoken at length over the past weeks and tonight we really opened up to all our feelings. It's right for us to seperate at this moment in time. I would love to think that we could save our relationship, but i have to let her go. She needs to rediscover who she is, as do i. There is no anger between us, just sadness.

markus
24th April 2007, 08:21 AM
another man wouldn't ask your wife to move in unless there was a serious emotional affair going on
and probably because of a long time affair that your relationship has gone down hill and she doesn't want to sleep or be close to you

Do yourself a favour and pack her bags ....... she's a selfish homewrecker