I too, am living in a sexless marriage :-(

[PennyPitstop]

Hello Everyone

This is my first post on this website, please be gentle!

I have been married for 4 years to a great guy, (this is where I start to sound like the rest of you on here), he loves me dearly, he gives me anything I want, he cleans, cooks, works hard treats me like a princess but doesn't like or want sex in any way shape or form!

He has medical problems: Diabetes type 1, he has erection problems, he has ejaculation problems and he also only has a very small penis. He has been prescribed viagra that seems to work for a little while.

I am very understanding about his medical problems and we talk openly and I have assured him that there are other ways of being intimate apart from actual intercourse and penetration......he isn't even trying. This has been months and months of us talking and him saying he will try and not getting anything done. He kisses me but never 'snogs' me, he won't touch me, I'm only 31 and I feel really empty and sad and can't bring myself to have an affair of any kind :-( I just want to feel wanted and passionate again like my old self.

I am bulimic have been since I was 16 but it is controlled with medication and therapy, however I have suffered loads of relapses in the past year due to this problem I feel so depressed even though everything else in my life is so positive.

We go out almost every Friday evening for a drink with friends who we socialise with and as soon as I have had a drink it is horrendous because my true feelings come out and we argue!

The worst thing is, when I met this man, he was separated after 18 years of marriage, his ex wife told me he doesn't like sex but I thought it was just her (as he had convinced me). She later blamed me for their break up and I was put through hell because of her........this was all five years ago, however she still hasn't got over it and lately attacked me in the street pulling all of my hair out leaving me with my self esteem in the gutter.

I just feel like I have gone through so much to go with this man and he won't even try to attempt to touch and have a normal sex life, I am such a giving partner I want to touch him and give him everything, but he won't let me! Please help I am at the end of my tether and have considered suicide many times lately, the only reason I am here is for my 10 year old son from a previous relationship

Sorry to babble on!

[Raymond]

Hi Penny seems like you are in a bit of a mess to say the least. I don't really know his motive for capturing you when he was like that unless it was you who got him. His ex wife seems to still want him or am I reading it wrong. You've seen the trouble a sexless marriage can be on these threads and I don't think you want that do you?

As you are not married to him I would admit to yourself that you made a mistake and end it. There will be good things to give up no doubt, but what's the alternative? The ex wife will be glad but at least she would be out of your hair as well.

Be brave Penny. There are many on here that will advise you better than I can, but I thought I would just say hello at least.

I hope you don't mind but my wife and I have prayed for you.

Raymond