Confused

[Unregistered]

Ive just discovered that my wife has been having an affair. My wife told me me that there wasnt anything sexual between them but were just friends and hadnt got as far as having sex yet but had kissed and fondled. I believed this and we both decided to try and rescue our marriage. As we talked about our problems she then admitted to having full sex with the other man. I was initially devastated but also found myself becoming aroused aswell.

Finding out about the affair etc were the worst days of my life spending most of my days sobbing uncontrollably so I cannot understand my reaction. We have been married for 12 yrs and have 2 kids, ive never been unfaithful.

Are these feelings normal or am I completely screwed up?

[Unregistered]

Ive been in the same situation. Dont worry it's so normal to feel the way you feel. I also felt confused. Not only because of what happened but because I felt stuck. I have a child with her and felt it was hard to leave the relationship. I felt hurt, I felt anger, but also relief cause she told me the truth. It is so confusing to feel all these things at once. You love the person and at the same time hate them for what they did to you. And the part about feeling aroused, thats just a way for you to accept what happened, and trying to turn it into something not so bad. But my advice to you is. Stay with her if you love her and feel that she can change. But DONT forgive her 4 the same thing TWICE.