ganzon69
16th April 2007, 06:13 PM
I posted here awhile ago, I was very suspicious of my wife. She had received a text message, sent to her by mistake according to her, from a parent of a child she looks after. She was very offish, negative, didn't want to be near me. I felt I had reason to believe she was cheating on me, but everytime I fronted her, asking for an explaination, she said everything was fine and she had no problems.
Think of me what you will, but I chose to leave a voice recorder in the kitchen on the morning when I went to work, as my wife was still child minding for the same fella I felt whe was involved with. I found that he was staying for quite some time in the mornings when he was just dropping his kids off, and the nature of their conversations was not what I would have expected from a parent/child carer relationship. Last Tuesday, even though my wife was not due to look after this mans children, I left the voice recorder running. When I played it back, a knock at the door at 8am, and it was him. He had brought round some washing my wife had agreed to do for his partner and him while they were having there kitchen down. Christ, he had to drive past a laundrette to get to my house ! After a small amount of chit chat, the conversation preceeded:
Man: You ok
Wife: My eyes are sore, I've been crying
Man: Why?
Wife: You.
She then proceeded to tell him of a dream she had that night, when she was shouting out his name and wake up around 1am crying her eyes out. We have two small children who regularly get into bed with my wife, so I was on the couch that night, so I was unaware of this.
I didn't need to hear anymore. I woke her and had it out with her. She wanted to know how I knew about her conversation, I didnt say exactly, but you dont need to be a genius now do you ! She left, came back, we didnt speak the following morning. I went to work, only to receive a text a few hours later to be told she has changed the locks and she left me a bag of clothes !
My dilema is this. I have evidence, put no solid proof. I owe my wife nothing, or this other fella, but I feel I owe his partner and that she deserves to know what I know. What do I have, a recording and a text message and a whole stack if intuition. My wife has been lying about where she has been going while covering for a married friend who has been having an affair. She was supposed to be going out with this friend, but has been going to her mothers and/or a old friends house. She said she couldnt tell me as I would have gone to her friends husband. She is right, I would have. I asked her if she felt bad for covering for her friend, but she said she did it as her friend was happy. She still insists that she has not been unfaithful. But she has been lying about this, and who know what else she has been lying about. Do I risk upsetting things when I need to get her onside so I am not ripped off in any settlement agreement. If I am wrong and she loses some income because of it, will I find myself in bigger trouble. The marriage is over, but I would like the truth. If she is lying, and is having an affair, I'd like to expose them both.
Think of me what you will, but I chose to leave a voice recorder in the kitchen on the morning when I went to work, as my wife was still child minding for the same fella I felt whe was involved with. I found that he was staying for quite some time in the mornings when he was just dropping his kids off, and the nature of their conversations was not what I would have expected from a parent/child carer relationship. Last Tuesday, even though my wife was not due to look after this mans children, I left the voice recorder running. When I played it back, a knock at the door at 8am, and it was him. He had brought round some washing my wife had agreed to do for his partner and him while they were having there kitchen down. Christ, he had to drive past a laundrette to get to my house ! After a small amount of chit chat, the conversation preceeded:
Man: You ok
Wife: My eyes are sore, I've been crying
Man: Why?
Wife: You.
She then proceeded to tell him of a dream she had that night, when she was shouting out his name and wake up around 1am crying her eyes out. We have two small children who regularly get into bed with my wife, so I was on the couch that night, so I was unaware of this.
I didn't need to hear anymore. I woke her and had it out with her. She wanted to know how I knew about her conversation, I didnt say exactly, but you dont need to be a genius now do you ! She left, came back, we didnt speak the following morning. I went to work, only to receive a text a few hours later to be told she has changed the locks and she left me a bag of clothes !
My dilema is this. I have evidence, put no solid proof. I owe my wife nothing, or this other fella, but I feel I owe his partner and that she deserves to know what I know. What do I have, a recording and a text message and a whole stack if intuition. My wife has been lying about where she has been going while covering for a married friend who has been having an affair. She was supposed to be going out with this friend, but has been going to her mothers and/or a old friends house. She said she couldnt tell me as I would have gone to her friends husband. She is right, I would have. I asked her if she felt bad for covering for her friend, but she said she did it as her friend was happy. She still insists that she has not been unfaithful. But she has been lying about this, and who know what else she has been lying about. Do I risk upsetting things when I need to get her onside so I am not ripped off in any settlement agreement. If I am wrong and she loses some income because of it, will I find myself in bigger trouble. The marriage is over, but I would like the truth. If she is lying, and is having an affair, I'd like to expose them both.