mand
13th April 2007, 05:56 AM
Ok this is all new to me but I need to tell someone and get some opions on what to do. I have been married for a yr and 4mo. My husband's line of work has him working all hours or shifts which never bottered me. In January of this year they sent him to Ohio for 3mo. he came home for a week when we went on vacation and again for a week in March. While away he would call me constantly and I have to admit I was happy to see go for a while cuz after the wedding he did a 360 and has been really hard to live with he takes all his anger out on me (not physically) but very emotinaly abuseive he tried a shrink and angermanagment Basicly he was all talk no action on his promises. Anyways he was home for a week in March and thie night before he left he started a fight about how he doesn't trust me and so on and he asked me if i trusted him cuz you know he would NEVER cheat on me and I told him is that area I did trust him but I didn't trust that he would try to be nicer and I was just waiting for the other shoe to drop and I also told him that truth will always come out in the end.
Well to my surprize that shoe dropped and the truth came out two days later when it hit me something he had said to me about his messenger handle so I went online and started going down the line instead of 2004 it was now 2006. So i went to myspace and punched it in there
and BAM! ! what do you know my husband was single again and new to the area of Ohio and didn't have kids (has one and a step child) so to get his attention I went on my profile and changed my status to divorced it took him less then 24 hours to call and tell me off and say that if i want to be divorced he would divorce me soo I told that i am divorced cuz apparntly your single !!! I hung up on him and grabbed his unopened cell phone bill and what do you think I found yep Five different Ohio numbers late at night not during work hours so I called them one by one I asked them one by one if they new a man and meet him from myspace and eachone said yes and when they asked who I was I told them I was his wife lets just say they were a little shocked and he slept with them all and here I sat stupid and dumb founded and now I don't know what to do. he has filled my life with hell and I would never had remarried if I knew this would be the outcome what I want to know is do I leave him or do I try to work this out he broke our vows mot once but multiple times and it was the last bit of trust i had left and he felt no guilt to do more than once. I didn't know where to turn or what to do I want to tell my mom but I already feel like a failure and to fail again I just don't want to disapoint them again but this is the one thing I don't think I can ever recover from I don't even think there is a way up from this ? am I rt? He did admit to me that there were at least three women in Ohio but of corse won't say if there are anymore and I really don't care to know three was enough but he says he us sorry but I don't believe him how does someone recover from this or don't you ?
Well to my surprize that shoe dropped and the truth came out two days later when it hit me something he had said to me about his messenger handle so I went online and started going down the line instead of 2004 it was now 2006. So i went to myspace and punched it in there
and BAM! ! what do you know my husband was single again and new to the area of Ohio and didn't have kids (has one and a step child) so to get his attention I went on my profile and changed my status to divorced it took him less then 24 hours to call and tell me off and say that if i want to be divorced he would divorce me soo I told that i am divorced cuz apparntly your single !!! I hung up on him and grabbed his unopened cell phone bill and what do you think I found yep Five different Ohio numbers late at night not during work hours so I called them one by one I asked them one by one if they new a man and meet him from myspace and eachone said yes and when they asked who I was I told them I was his wife lets just say they were a little shocked and he slept with them all and here I sat stupid and dumb founded and now I don't know what to do. he has filled my life with hell and I would never had remarried if I knew this would be the outcome what I want to know is do I leave him or do I try to work this out he broke our vows mot once but multiple times and it was the last bit of trust i had left and he felt no guilt to do more than once. I didn't know where to turn or what to do I want to tell my mom but I already feel like a failure and to fail again I just don't want to disapoint them again but this is the one thing I don't think I can ever recover from I don't even think there is a way up from this ? am I rt? He did admit to me that there were at least three women in Ohio but of corse won't say if there are anymore and I really don't care to know three was enough but he says he us sorry but I don't believe him how does someone recover from this or don't you ?