jo71
23rd March 2007, 04:10 AM
Tonight I am having a slight setback. I just found that I have...the o/w's email address. When h sent out a funny email a few weeks ago to a whole bunch of people, I saved it...and going back through them now, I just found that he copied her on it too (I know this because it is her full first and last name). So after a couple of glasses of wine now, and through a stream of tears, I typed this email to her. I won't send it (I've learned to not send anything in haste), but I may revise it (when my head is more clear) and send it at some point.
M,
I wonder if you even have any idea of how many lives are being affected by your decision to be with my husband. I have dedicated my life to this man for 20 years. I have traveled literally across the world with him, given him 2 beautiful children, put him before myself in every situation, and loved him unconditionally...all to be cast aside with no warning. I'm not blaming you completely...T's unhappiness...that is his issue. And I don't know you M, or what kind of person you are, or what kind of values you have...but I do know that you KNEW T was married when you lured him to you. I'll never know how a person sleeps at night knowing that they have torn a man away from an entire life he has built with his family...his children...his wife. We were happy M. For so many wonderful years, we were the ideal family. T and I have been the best of friends for what seems like forever. The past year or so has been somewhat less than perfect, but it could have so easily been turned around. However, he ran into you. One day in January, when things weren't "perfect" in our lives, he found a little temptation, and he bit. How do you feel to be the bait? Oh, and just so you'll know...he didn't stop sleeping in our bed until after he started this *virtual* relationship with you...just in case you were told otherwise. You and he have destroyed a lifetime of dreams...both of mine and my children's. We have been abandoned, and never even saw it coming. I don't know what your intentions are with my husband, but you should know that up until the point that you stepped into our lives, our marriage was good. We were in a small rut, as all marriages go through, but we have always held onto each other in the low points and climbed out together. But add in the temptation of another woman (any woman) and he jumped at the chance. It's not your fault he was weak, but it is equally your fault that this has continued. I love my husband M. I would have laid down my life for him. Shame on you. Shame on you both.
Again, I'm not sending it...yet. I'm just putting it in my little "Hate Drafts" folder and might someday...maybe just before our d goes through, because I know she'll share it with him. Don't know also why I'm posting it here either...maybe just the wine talking (or typing). It's after midnight here, so I'm going to go to bed now...determined to wake up HAPPY in the morning!!!
Love you guys,
Jo
M,
I wonder if you even have any idea of how many lives are being affected by your decision to be with my husband. I have dedicated my life to this man for 20 years. I have traveled literally across the world with him, given him 2 beautiful children, put him before myself in every situation, and loved him unconditionally...all to be cast aside with no warning. I'm not blaming you completely...T's unhappiness...that is his issue. And I don't know you M, or what kind of person you are, or what kind of values you have...but I do know that you KNEW T was married when you lured him to you. I'll never know how a person sleeps at night knowing that they have torn a man away from an entire life he has built with his family...his children...his wife. We were happy M. For so many wonderful years, we were the ideal family. T and I have been the best of friends for what seems like forever. The past year or so has been somewhat less than perfect, but it could have so easily been turned around. However, he ran into you. One day in January, when things weren't "perfect" in our lives, he found a little temptation, and he bit. How do you feel to be the bait? Oh, and just so you'll know...he didn't stop sleeping in our bed until after he started this *virtual* relationship with you...just in case you were told otherwise. You and he have destroyed a lifetime of dreams...both of mine and my children's. We have been abandoned, and never even saw it coming. I don't know what your intentions are with my husband, but you should know that up until the point that you stepped into our lives, our marriage was good. We were in a small rut, as all marriages go through, but we have always held onto each other in the low points and climbed out together. But add in the temptation of another woman (any woman) and he jumped at the chance. It's not your fault he was weak, but it is equally your fault that this has continued. I love my husband M. I would have laid down my life for him. Shame on you. Shame on you both.
Again, I'm not sending it...yet. I'm just putting it in my little "Hate Drafts" folder and might someday...maybe just before our d goes through, because I know she'll share it with him. Don't know also why I'm posting it here either...maybe just the wine talking (or typing). It's after midnight here, so I'm going to go to bed now...determined to wake up HAPPY in the morning!!!
Love you guys,
Jo