marriage and STD

[someoneseeking]

the nitty gritty is this:
I am at the stage of trying to decide if my girlfriend is "the one'. this topic can balloon way out when I finish things, so at this point please concentrate on the specific question I'm asking, and not the hows/whys it got to this question:

my girlfriend who is also a christian, made bad choices years ago, and has herpes. I just found this out and Im' really really trying to figure out how I feel about it, and what it will mean to be married to her. I don't have herpes, and I plan very soon to talk to a counselor/medical person and try to really understand-- is it essentially a given that I will get herpes from her? how drastically does that affect one's life, etc.
she told me she only has outbreaks 1X a year, if that, .. i know just from watching TV and Valtrex commercials that obv you shouldn't have sex during an outbreak, but also the little I've read about it also points out that you can contract it even when there are no obvious signs of an outbreak.

I would desperately love to hear from anyone who's been in my situation, or , of course, someone who is married and their partner has an STD and how they deal/dealt with it.

if you ahve no direct experience, please then just pray for me. this complicates things considerably. it doesn't help that I'm kind of a hypochondriac or.. well. I work in biotech and know about viruses and stuff and its jsut not a comforting feeling to think (which i could be wrong) that marriage to her will essentially guarantee that I will also get an STD.

please help and pray for me

[Raymond]

http://www.herpes.com/showAskAmy3.shtml

You could try this website.

Also there is a discussion going on here where you may learn something.

http://www.themarriagebed.com/boards/viewtopic.php?t=8412

Raymond

[marriedbrunette30]

I know others with this. seems as though with herpes,it can start off being pretty bad. like flu-like symptoms and blisters and alot of itching. Then,the longer you have it,the less severe the outbreaks become,and then they are only brought on by stress usually.
I think if you do marry though,there is a very HIGH possiblity you will catch it sooner or later unless you tend to use condoms through out your marriage forever. Because spreading of this illness happens when the skin cells are "shedding" and there is no way to know when this process is happening.
Apparently it is VERY common though and like,one in 6 people has some type of herpes now.