financial info hidden

[honestguy]

My wife is hiding all records including bank and retirement using privacy as an explanation. She applied separate credit card did not even mention it to me. She gets wild if I see her mails. I do not her email password. Is this a good sign.

[Dave]

The situation does seem to be causing you some conflict. Did you talk about how you were going to organise your finances before you got married?

Have you asked your wife how she thinks you ought to organise your finances. She seems to want quite a bit of independence which is not wrong in itself, but if you understood each other's attitudes to money, there might not be so much friction.

Encourage her to share her feelings as well as her judgements and try to understand and accept how she is feeling, because that gives you a window on what is going on inside her. If your expectations in this area are different, then it helps to get that out in the open and see if you can work out a way forward, which you can both find acceptable.

However you tackle things do it gently, without accusation. This is not the slippery slope down hill, but just another step along the way of learning to understand what is important to each other and how to work together.

There are some articles under ourRelationship Basics (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/relbasictopic/) area which may give you some tips on how to go about things.