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Steph80
26th February 2007, 12:56 AM
Ok I need help.. My husband came to me and said that he is no-longer happy with everything (marriage, life, his job.) he tells me that he wants to be separated. We have an 18 month old son together. I have asked him not to see our son since he is the one who has chosen to leave our family until he can figure what makes him happy or what he needs to do to make the change. He says that our son has nothing to do with this and that I am using him against him. I am not. I feel by having us out of the picture he will see that is what makes him happy. He than told me no he will see him when he wants. Before all this has happen he hasn't bothered calling me to see how our son is doing or myself. I told him that he can see our son when I am with him he can't just take him or have him over night. Now this has been going on for just a week. We have been married 2 years but together 11-years. He even had balls to say that we have only stayed together because of our son. :eek: Hello what about the other 10 years he had time to leave than. I feel now that there is no hope for our marriage. He doesn't like to talk about what brothers him or is he trying to make this work. I feel that I keep calling him and that I want to be a helpful wife and help him through this tuff time. But now I feel that the love I had is being taken over by hate. Due to what he has done to our family. He just wants to walk away from our marriage. He grow up in that why wouldn't he want to try and make this work?? Am I doing the wrong thing?

marriedbrunette30
26th February 2007, 01:28 AM
Of course you arent doing the wrong thing by wanting your marriage to work...however,I think you should let him see your son. The son is the real victim in all of this,he deserves BOTH parents to be in his life.
I can understand how you feel. I think if my husband left me,my inital reaction would be to not let him see our child...but then reality would set in and I'd know that's not the right thing for our child.
You need to see past your anger and your hurt and do what is right for your baby.
Trust me,with holding your child from seeing his dad may hurt your husband a little,but it hurts the child more.
Sounds like your husband is having some kind of mid-life crisis thing. I hope things work out for all of you.