Not ignored here!

[Dave]

Earlier today we received the following message:

"a very good resource, but with the usual gender bias. I am in a marraige with a wife who is violent ... this is not even considered on your site. It is assumed it's always the 'man' !!!! ;INTERVENTION #1 (For the partner who is the target of physical violence)
Telephone the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0345 023468. Alternatively visit the "Women at Risk" area at 2-in-2-1 or Women's Aid where you will find recommendations for legal protection, steps to take, and even arrangements for special protective sheltering if needed.

I am never taken seriously if I ever mention it to anyone (police included).... you let
men down here. Female violence toward men is real, but it is being ignored. Do some
research. ..... Help men too"

As an immediate response we have re-titled the section as Domestic Violence (was "Women at Risk") and have added links to support organisations for men (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/womenrisk/menrisk.html).

Do others have a story to share here, or does anyone have any other national resources for helping men trapped in the nightmare of domestic violence? If so, do please let us know.

[justlikejellyrolls]

You should move to Los Angeles because it is definately not ignored here. When I was a child somthing happened that made me deathly afraid of the police. My dad was violent and everytim they came to my home they would let him off the hook, always asking my mother to leave. SO naturally I grew a hate and distrust for them. Well my last relationship was very abusive , my boyfriend beat me up ALL of the time. But of course I never called the police. One day I decided to stand up to him, I told him he was never going to hit me again and that I wanted him out. I started packing his things and the next thing I knew he was on the phone to the cops saying that I beat him up. The police came and and even though he couldn't prove that I layed a hand on him , they hauled me off to jail for three days. IT was a nightmare. They arrested me even though I really did nothing. So if you are having a problem with an abusive female move here they will take you seriously even if you are lying. (not saying YOU are). DId I mention that he told the police he called them because he wanted to teach me a lesson and smiled as they dragged me away. He knew my fear and used it against me.

BTW, if you are in a relationship with an abusive person don't wait for someone to help you out of it. Get out of it yourself. It is easier than it feels when considered. Believe me. My life is so much better now. I have a wonderufl husband who doesn't even drink and has NEVER touched me. You never know how great your life could be until you go for it.:)

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Earlier today we received the following message:

"a very good resource, but with the usual gender bias. I am in a marraige with a wife who is violent ... this is not even considered on your site. It is assumed it's always the 'man'
>>>>>INTERVENTION #1 (For the partner who is the target of physical violence)
Telephone the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0345 023468. Alternatively visit the "Women at Risk" area at 2-in-2-1 or Women's Aid where you will find recommendations for legal protection, steps to take, and even arrangements for special protective sheltering if needed.<<<<<<<

I am never taken seriously if I ever mention it to anyone (police included).... you let
men down here. Female violence toward men is real, but it is being ignored. Do some
research. ..... Help men too"

As an immediate response we have re-titled the section as Domestic Violence (was "Women at Risk") and have added links to support organisations for men.

Do others have a story to share here, or does anyone have any other national resources for helping men trapped in the nightmare of domestic violence? If so, do please let us know.