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marriedbrunette30
23rd February 2007, 10:01 PM
Ok,my husband and I have been married for 10 years.We have one beautiful child together,and have been very happy. It hasnt been a bed of roses always,as he has 3 other children from 2 different women. He had them when he was very young and irresponsible.
So,I've quite often had to deal with his exes. :mad:

This past October,my husband got a call from his uncle saying that one of his ex girlfriends has been calling there asking for his number. He said he told her that he was MARRIED and that he couldnt give out that info.

December,2 days before Christmas, a weird looking letter comes in the mail.It kinda looks like a bill,so I just open it.
It is from the ex girlfriend!

saying,I have been looking everywhere for you for years. I miss you,and I really want to talk to you. I hope you arent married,but if you are I will not bother you.
After talking to my husband about it,and getting HIS APPROVAL,I called her number and left a message saying that "yes,she HAS found him,but he IS happily married,so she can move one with her life"

Last week,the post office now gives a notice that my husband has a RESTRICTED delivery by her!!!:mad::mad::mad: Meaning,only HE can sign for it!

Oh,I was mad....that she actually thought that i wouldnt know or see it.
Anyways,THIS one was a bit more explicit.
Said he could e-mail her if it was hard for him to talk cuz his wife was around.That his wife seems jealous! That she CANT STOP thinking about him.And she signed it LOVE ALWAYS.
Please,Please,please tell me some other woman out there would be bothered by this! Tell me,guys,if an ex boyfriend did this,would you not be mad???
Of course,I'am NOT mad at my husband at all. He didnt ask for this. IT HAS BEEN 17 YEARS since has seen this woman for crying out loud!
So why is she being so desperate and trying to steal my husband now?



So,my husband called and left a message saying he is not intrested in whatever it is she is offering,that he has been married the last 10 years and it's going to stay that way.To leave him alone,stop calling places about him and stop sending him letters"

I also e-mailed her telling her my husband and I have no secrets and that i know everything her little letter said. That she has ALOT of nerve thinking my husband would deceive me by going behind my back to e-mail her in private so i wouldnt know.
I told her that I'am NOT jealous of HER by any means,I just dont like people who cant respect someone else's marriage.

So,am I wrong for doing this? I had to get out my feelings! I didnt sleep or eat all week thinking about this homewrecker trying to steal my husband. I have been a wreck.
I do trust him and think he wouldnt cheat,but you never know when temptation keeps getting thrown in his face . I'am WAAAY better looking then her too,but I know that it doesnt always matter to a man. That if they want the booty they will take no matter what it looks like.

Please tell me I'm not wrong for feeling this way? How would any of you feel if this happend to you? And what if this B**** doesnt go away???:eek:

markus
23rd February 2007, 10:21 PM
Yes you have a right to be concerned about someone like that
she's obviously got a screw loose to contact him in this way and theres a possibilty he'd like to give her a length for old times sake so ..... stay on the case untill your sure she's out of the picture

good luck

marriedbrunette30
23rd February 2007, 10:47 PM
Thank you for your response markus:D

It's nice to know someone who can see where I'm coming from. I posted this problem on another forum of mostly old ladies and they seemed to think I'm over-reacting and making a mountain out of a mole-hill.
I just want to add that I'm not even a jealous person. My husband has contact with hotties at his job all the time (one that's even a celeb,who comes in wearing a see-through shirt) I never get insecure about it.
But i think this ex-girlfriend is crossing some serious lines here,and I dont like it.

1cor13v13
23rd February 2007, 10:58 PM
Just keep reminding (by loving acts) your husband, daily, of why he married YOU. He won't want to stray or even wonder about what he's missing. Just keep communicating and sharing thoughts about the whole thing. Your relationship will grow stronger through this. Don't let anyone plant a wedge in what you have.

marriedbrunette30
23rd February 2007, 11:35 PM
I wont 1cor13v13...and that is very good advice. we have been through alot and it always has made us stronger,so hopefully this will be the same.

jools
24th February 2007, 12:07 AM
Hi MB30
I agree with Markus - stay on the case till you are sure she's HISTORY! I can tell you're not a jealous type cos a lot of women (me included) would have paid her a personal visit by now - just to sort it out face to face.Your H sounds like he's not interested - but never underestimate the capacity of men to be flattered! Over-reacting? --- Don't think that's possible in a situation like this! How dare she! Cheeky cow!!!
Jools. XXX
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marriedbrunette30
24th February 2007, 12:43 AM
LOL,thanks jools! Believe me,it shows alot of restraint on my part I think to NOT go confront her face to face. I do know many women who would too.
I suppose if she keeps it up,and takes it further I may have to.

I worry (since she has OUR address now) if maybe one day she wont just show up at my front door? My husband is at work 6 days a week,so if she did, she'd be unpleasantly surprized to see only me;)
I mean obviously she isnt taking no for an answer. She was told once by the uncle,then once by me,and still she pursued my husband. I'm hoping cuz he told her now she will finally take a hint already.
Yeah,he doesnt seem intrested,but you are right about how flattery can blow one's head up.An ego boost...sometimes changes people.
I'am sticking to my guns!

markus
24th February 2007, 08:14 AM
Find out where she lives and launch a bucket of water over her

marriedbrunette30
26th February 2007, 01:39 AM
LOL markus...she MAY EVEN be married for all I know! Her letter did mention having two kids. I COULD mail copies of her letters to her house and hope she has a husband who sees it!