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[sharon]

the day before xmas eve my husband told me he did not love me, he just said i dont love or want to be with you no reason he said there is no one else he just wants a new life with out me, i dont no what happend but i ant get over it, he wants divorce and he is moving out he wont talk to me and i have begged him to try and sort things out but he wont,every one says let him get on with it and get on with your life but i cant i love him so much and i dont want a divorce the fact we are in the same house does not help he avoids me and all i do is cry i dont know what to do next

[bandit]

your husband has somebody else. It happens all of the time. Being a man, I can assure you that he's not just leaving for no reason. Good luck.

[sharon]

ive asked him if there is some one else and he swears there is not he has just got a new job and says he wants a new life to go with it belive me if there was some one else he would tell me

[markus]

New job ... met another women there .... He's cheating and dont expect him to tell you that
cheats dont do truth

nuff said !

[marriedbrunette30]

sharon,what else has been going on with your marriage,there must be SOME reasons you can think of as to why he'd leave you.Other then the job thing.

How long have you been married?

[helenrw200]

Hi Sharon

It's really hard when someone tells you they no longer love you because of course you can't force them to. Reading your other post on here it sounds as though your H has had a rough time and is wanting to leave it all behind and start again . He says that you reacted badly when he threatened suicide but really you were panicking too and did what came naturally, tried to stop him, and you were successful, don't blame yourself for that.

It sounds as though he's been through or is going through a bout of depression and is pushing you away, did he receive any outside help after his threatened suicide attempt ? What's his mood like in general ?

I know everyone is telling you to just let him go, but I know it isn't that easy to do when you love someone , providing he is telling the truth that there is nobody else involved then it may be that you have no choice but to let him go and see what happens. Sadly you can't force him to stay.It may be though that the more dependant and clingy he thinks you are being, the more determined he is to " escape " and it does sound to me that escapism is what he's doing.


While you are still living together it is just making it harder for you , he's withdrawn from you and probably thinks he's making it easier on you by not showing any affection to give you false hope, so he's ignoring you instead.

People's feelings don't change overnight and it sounds to me as though he's having some sort of crisis, how old is he by the way ?

He may find out once he has got what he wanted and moved out that it really wasn't what he wanted at all but I don't want to give you false hope either and you really have to start concentrating on you . If he won't talk to you, write it all down and give it to him, explain your feelings and tell him that you really don't want him to go , it's harder to ignore the written word.

At the end of the day though he isn't leaving you with much choice and it may be that you will have to accept, that sadly he is moving on without you and you therefore need to do the same.

I wish you luck, take care and keep us posted.

Helen

[helenrw200]

Markus

Your track record on spotting the cheats is pretty good, but this time I really hope you're wrong.

Helen

[sharon]

we have been together 8yrs and hes 49 he did not recive any help when he was going to commit suicied and i think he is depressed but he says he not he said just because i dont love you does not mean there is any thing wrong with me, may be it will be esaer when we live in seperate homes

[markus]

It will be ............... pack his bags and call a taxi for him

[sharon]

found myself a house today its small and needs a hell of a lot doing, i went to see it this morning and ive got esimates for decorating, my carpets taking from here and fitting and a removel van, its only rented but its big enough for me and my daughter,im not telling him ive found some where and im taking all the furniture with me, all i hear from him is i want i need so im taking a leaf out of his book and doing what i want and what i need and i need every bit of furniture every pot and every pan so im having them i hope thats not illeagel
sharon