xpeacelilyx
15th April 2000, 10:37 AM
My husband was always emotionally absent even through some very nasty events eg I became pregnant after sterilisation. The pregnancy turned out to be ectopic. All emotional decisions were mine. He was not involved with the children emotionally or even physically for many years.
After I had an emotional breakdown due to the termination of our baby and other distressing circumstances, he then met another woman when I was in hospital and emotionally supported her for three years through her marriage break up while I could not recover. He sees no wrong in what he did.
The doctor said that my depression was caused by my marriage. I told him and he said that the doctor could only see one side and asked me if I wanted to go to the pub. I left. He then took my eldest son against my wishes and showed no interest in the younger two.
He has told my son some dreadful stories about me stealing all his money etc. I have no income and am living on the goodwill of a new partner that I met on line. The CSA eventually had to deduct money from his salary to help support the youngest two, over a year in all. My new partner is loving and caring and the children are bennefitting so much from him.
I feel emotionally dead now though most of the time. I have no interest in anything.
My husband seems to be sailing on with life though after making it impossible for me to stay in our home town, so many lies and stories. Apparantly I'm a cyber sex addict who had physically slept with half the men in town. None of this is true. Gradually I hear from old friends, but all I want to do is make a new life and put the past behind me.
It's so painful. I thought that divorce would be easy but that is crucifying me.
Any tip would help!!!!! Btw, I've just typed and am not going to read this back to myself. That way I won't stop myself speaking from inside if that makes sense.
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Peace
After I had an emotional breakdown due to the termination of our baby and other distressing circumstances, he then met another woman when I was in hospital and emotionally supported her for three years through her marriage break up while I could not recover. He sees no wrong in what he did.
The doctor said that my depression was caused by my marriage. I told him and he said that the doctor could only see one side and asked me if I wanted to go to the pub. I left. He then took my eldest son against my wishes and showed no interest in the younger two.
He has told my son some dreadful stories about me stealing all his money etc. I have no income and am living on the goodwill of a new partner that I met on line. The CSA eventually had to deduct money from his salary to help support the youngest two, over a year in all. My new partner is loving and caring and the children are bennefitting so much from him.
I feel emotionally dead now though most of the time. I have no interest in anything.
My husband seems to be sailing on with life though after making it impossible for me to stay in our home town, so many lies and stories. Apparantly I'm a cyber sex addict who had physically slept with half the men in town. None of this is true. Gradually I hear from old friends, but all I want to do is make a new life and put the past behind me.
It's so painful. I thought that divorce would be easy but that is crucifying me.
Any tip would help!!!!! Btw, I've just typed and am not going to read this back to myself. That way I won't stop myself speaking from inside if that makes sense.
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Peace