lost dont know what to do

[lostyoungmummyandwife]

i just dont know what to do im 20 married and have two children.
i been married for two years but in al been with him for four years. He treats me like **** and makes me feel really bad about myself weve had problams for the last year an half dont get me wrong when hes in a good mood hes so lovley the nicest person u could know.
we do nothing but argue and fight. he takes drugs i dont take my kids
home at night i leave them with my mum because i never know what mood hes going to be in i have got hardly any selfesteam at all.
i know i should leave him but im scared too hesw tryed takein my eldest son before he gets violant
please someone help what should i do i know in my heart i should leave him i just dont know how

[Helen]

Hi,

I am sorry to hear that you are in this situation. I strongly recommend that you visit the Women's Aid site here: http://www.womensaid.org.uk/ and have a look around. You are not alone. Then I think you should contact them for advice on this number: 0808 2000 247. They will be able to advise you and may be able to help you leave and find somewhere to stay. It is clear to me that you cannot stay with this abusive 'man' and raising two kids with an addicted father can only harm them in the long term.

Do not say anything to your husband about what you are doing. If you are going to call Women's Aid, do it from your mother's house. And follow the site's 'cover your tracks' tips to clear your internet history so that he cannot track your use of the internet and this board. If he knows what you intend to do, that may make things very dangerous for you indeed.

Do take care and let us know what you decide to do, won't you?


Helen

[lostyoungmummyandwife]

thanks i am gonna leave him cos its not fair on my kids or myself its just scared to but i will try womens aid so thanx for ur advice