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Mr Confused
18th February 2006, 02:30 PM
Hi every one

It is some time since I have logged on as actually I just became so tired of thinking of everything, my brain went on overload.

My wife and I are still seperated, she is, I think setting up home with this postman now but I feel that with everything out in the open, the whole affair is not quite as apealing as it was before, she has had to start admitting to her friends that she has and is still having an affair and that she lied to them.

My wife is trying to push things through court now as she wants the sale of our house so that she can get the money to fund her new life, she has tried to push things forward on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour however I have said that I will defend this in court if needed, there is no unreasonable behaviour, so I stand a good chance of getting it thrown out, she has also tried to use my son against me and restrict my access to him, again this is one thing that I will fight tooth and nail for.

I still love my wife very much but she has hurt me so much that I am beggining to pull away, it hurts me to think of her with the postman and it eats me up the thought of him pushing in on my sons life, my son has just told me that my wife is going to get the postman to come and play playstation with him, this is a treat for every child and trying to use this to get him into my sons life is so low,

I am moving on slowly and am trying to build up my businesses again as I have let them slip a little, however I feel tired and worn out over the whole affair, sometimes I dont know what to do, I want to keep the only house that has been home to my son and have asked for a seperation for two years and if things are the same at the end of it then I suppose divorce is the only option.

I suppose what is on my mind is that am I barking up the wrong tree and wasting my time, I still believe that my wife is the only one for me, I have fallen completely in love with her and will still forgive her if she comes back, I still believe that I can learn to trust her again and just want the opertunity to try.

How long do I give it, I caught them out about four months ago and she moved out about three months ago, the post man has had affairs before, and I firmly believe that he is only after her money when she gets it from the house, even thinking of him makes me feel so angry, I hate him with every bit of hate in my body,

what do I do

Mr Confused

Helen
18th February 2006, 02:50 PM
Hi,

I think you should give it up. Your wife has demonstrated repeatedly that she no longer wants to be with you. It is this man - no matter how unsuitable - that she wants now. You need to move on otherwise you risk wasting your life waiting for this woman. It is clear to me that she may never come back.

She has a cheek trying to divorce you for unreasonable behaviour! You could divorce her for every reason in the book but why aren't you divorcing her on the grounds of her adultery and naming the postman in the petition? If you do this, you could also ask the court to make her and her lover pay your legal costs. You can also ask the court to sort out joint custody for your son.

I would do this and do it fast otherwise you run the risk of being shafted by both these people.


H