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helenrw200
10th June 2005, 04:28 PM
I'm more than a little annoyed with my ex at the moment. When I left him, he played on the kids quite a bit, moaning that I never informed him of anything happening in their lives and that they never went to see him ( he was always welcome here, even if it did inconvenience me ) However since moving in with his new g/f a few months ago, he hardly ever has time for them now and my youngest ( 15 ) especially is feeling it badly , he's in the middle of GCSE's and his dad hasn't visited or even rung to see how he's getting on for 3 weeks.

When I left he made me feel very guilty for taking the kids away and so I made a concerted effort to keep him up to date on everything, small or large and he had open house here . It's kind of made me wonder if he just wants a family, any family ( she has 2 kids ) and now he isn't on his own he doesn't need his own kids any more to feel important. Am I being too harsh ?

He's even taking her away to Scotland , after promising our youngest a trip to Cornwall, youngest hasn't even been told that his dad's plans have changed, youngest is autistic and reacts badly to change, so no doubt he's leaving it for me to tell him and bear the brunt.

I know if I'd been seperated from my children I'd want to spend all the time I could with them, and it is upsetting to see the effect his apparent cavalier attitude towards them is having .

Sorry to vent but it is just so annoying and frustrating. I know I left him, but his kids didn't.

Helen

London
10th June 2005, 05:10 PM
I know if I'd been seperated from my children I'd want to spend all the time I could with them, and it is upsetting to see the effect his apparent cavalier attitude towards them is having .



more evidence which supports why you had to leave that man. I never understood the selfishness that so many people seem to have, especially those who have an immense amount of responsibility. It's one thing to say "we have to seperate" - its another thing to say "with this seperation I am absolved with my responsibilities". Sorry helen, but your ex is just a big fat jerk.

helenrw200
10th June 2005, 05:49 PM
london, I'm so glad you said that, you read my mind,although I have thought of much stronger words to describe him. There can be nothing worse than watching your kids being hurt by someone who should only ever do them good.

Helen