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DDANN
18th April 2005, 11:43 PM
I have been married for 3 years and together for 5. In the last two years, my H has quit paying any attention to me at all. We have relations maybe once every three months, if we spend any time together the TV has to be on. I have tried in a non confrontational way to discuss this and he always states that I am making things up and that is not the way it is. I know that the last year has been hard, we bought a new business, I keep all the books, I also work full time for a company, and I take on line classes to keep up with my carreer. We have two children one mine from previous and one his from previous.

I feel so alone in my own house, I try so hard to do everything he wants and yet all he does is complain that things are done, or done right. I feel like I give him 150% support and I get nothing in return, He does not want me to go to school so I take on line classes so I am able to do most of the work on my lunch hour as to not to interfere with his schedule. When I push for time alone with him, I get pushed away.

I ran into someone a couple of weeks ago that I have known for a long time. He and I have been talking and txting back and forth, I feel so contected to him. We are both respectful of my marriage but I do not know how much longer I can take the isolation,

May question is how to get back what I had three years ago with getting rejected every time. Any help would be appreciated

Kate
18th April 2005, 11:52 PM
Dear Ddan

Your life sounds very busy and it seems that your husband has found his way to relax but it doesn't include you.

Sorting out the ways we are different is part of learning how to be married. He is looking at life from his viewpoint and you from yours. Why not have a look at some of the tips here (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/relbasictopic/cftcartoon/) to see if you can find ways to waken up the communication again and I'm sure the attention will follow on from that.

Kate

roppelt
19th April 2005, 02:55 AM
get the book "The care and feeding of husbands" by DR.laura availble in most book stores
it will change you life and how he relates to you.