Is the distance destroying our relationship?

[tboo]

lkIi2t A round of applause for your article post.Really thank you! Fantastic.

[Dave]

Dear Tboo

I hate to be harsh, but I think you need to do some really deep thinking before taking your relationship with this man any further.

He's betraying your trust involving himself in "chat" relationships with other girls. He has a problem with porn, and he's prepared to lie to you rather than face up to the issues.

It is a HUGE mistake to go into a marriage thinking you, or your love, will change him. Firstly, it will almost certainly fail. Secondly if it does change him he will feel manipulated by you, which is rarely a great foundation.

Hard as it is, I'd say walk away now, with your head held high. Let him know you will always have a special place for him in your heart, but be true to yourself, leave, and someday the right man, who will treat you with respect, will come along.

Best wishes

Dave

[dryvanda]

Yes I have to agree with Dave. Firstly you only see each other a few times a year and even although it has been six years you do not really know each other. I am sorry to say this but you have to live with someone to really know them.
On the other hand if he really loves you then why worry about masterbation is it not better he relieve himself than actually go with another woman. You cannot expect him to sit and twiddle his thumbs and never see or speak to anyone.
It is only chat lines and maybe he gets a buzz from sending naked pictures of himself the imagination can only streatch so far.
These women he is sending them to may think it is great or even sexy and may tell him how good he looks but remember if he IS NOT seeing anyone he is doing no harm. when he does see you, you may be reaping the benefits of this so try not to be so harsh on him or yourself, what do you do to keep yourself happy do you sit all alone or never speak to anyone, or do you go clubbing? Marriage is a huge committment and it should be thought about in every aspect before actually getting into it. It is not so easy to get out of a marriage as it is to get into one. He should have been truthful with you but he would not find it easy to explain his actions.

good Luck.S