Mad M
8th January 2005, 05:34 AM
We've been a couple (more 'off' than 'on', in a relationship sense, not sexual), for 12 and a half years, the last five of which have been solid as a rock. We have two beautiful, wonderful kids, are lucky enough to own our home, and are set to get married at the end of April.
Sure, we've had stress, like anyoe else, money, jobs, our son's been quite ill, and now I'm quite ill, which they think is endometriosis. (If you haven't heard about it, it's a disease, not life-threatening, where the lining of the womb grows outside of the womb in other areas of the body, obviously causing some degree of pain, according to the severity of each case.)
Naturally, sex, has been a problem in the last year, but in the last couple of months, my fiancee has been going out to the pub more. Tonight is the fourth night he's not returned, and at 4.30am, I don't think he'll be back 'til the morning again. We have talked about the previous 3 occasions, especially as it has come out in conversations that he has an 'infatuation' with a girl from work. Apparently, she fancies him too, but nothing's been said, and nothing's happened.
In our somewhat checkered past of teenage years, we've both said and done some extremely nasty things to each other. I thought we had got past that, but now, I'm not so sure. The last time he stayed out, I asked him to leave, to which he said
1) I can't - you need me to look after you.
2) I haven't done anything wrong except get drunk and stay out
3) I won't leave until you ask me to go.
Am I being overdramatic? What can I do?
Sure, we've had stress, like anyoe else, money, jobs, our son's been quite ill, and now I'm quite ill, which they think is endometriosis. (If you haven't heard about it, it's a disease, not life-threatening, where the lining of the womb grows outside of the womb in other areas of the body, obviously causing some degree of pain, according to the severity of each case.)
Naturally, sex, has been a problem in the last year, but in the last couple of months, my fiancee has been going out to the pub more. Tonight is the fourth night he's not returned, and at 4.30am, I don't think he'll be back 'til the morning again. We have talked about the previous 3 occasions, especially as it has come out in conversations that he has an 'infatuation' with a girl from work. Apparently, she fancies him too, but nothing's been said, and nothing's happened.
In our somewhat checkered past of teenage years, we've both said and done some extremely nasty things to each other. I thought we had got past that, but now, I'm not so sure. The last time he stayed out, I asked him to leave, to which he said
1) I can't - you need me to look after you.
2) I haven't done anything wrong except get drunk and stay out
3) I won't leave until you ask me to go.
Am I being overdramatic? What can I do?