SicknTired
15th November 2004, 08:57 PM
Okay, long story. I’ll try to make it as short as possible. When my husband and I started dating 12 years ago, he had a girlfriend. I was the other woman for 1 ½ years until he finally broke up with her. He also had a female “best” friend that he met a year before we started dating. I accepted the friend and as the years went on, I felt more and more uneasy about her. I always get the impression that she’s in love with him. She gives him “googly” eyes and hangs on every word that he says. We married in 1998, and things have gotten worse. He admitted to having sex with her once years ago because he felt “obligated” and it got to the point that she was always at my house or staying the night. I went to California on a family trip this summer and while I was gone, he had her stay the night. I was not happy about that. I finally told him how I was feeling about her and he told me I was being petty. I drew my line in the sand and told him that she cannot come over when I am not there and she cannot ever spend the night again. He RELUCTANTLY did it and told me how hard it was to have to tell her that. The finally nail in the coffin just happened when he invited her to share the costs with him and his 2 sisters for a gift for his grandmother. I got very angry because I felt that he was still trying to fortify their relationship. Again, I was told that I was being silly and that his grandmother and mother considered her an extended part of the family. After hours of arguing, he decided that he was gonna end the relationship. Am I wrong for breaking up their friendship, or do you think I should still be concerned? Feel free to request more info. Sick & Tired, NJ USA