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11th November 2004, 11:58 PM
My husband has recently hurt me badly, not physically. He travels on business regularly, often to places that sound exciting and that I would really like to see. I never mind him travelling and going away for weeks on end, after all it is part of his job, but naturally miss him whilst he is away. We have two small children, oldest is five and we have not had any quality time away from the family together since my oldest was born, I work full time and as you can imagine I am often tired/worn out and feel in need of a break, on my own with my hubby.
About three weeks ago, I received a phone call from my hubby, whilst I was at work. He phone to tell me that he was going to the Far East (China) in early November and as he was travelling alone would I like to go with him- you can imagine my response "of course"! I asked him if he was joking - "no - of course not". So, as it was very near Christmas I said I would accompany him if the flight was the right price. All this happened on a Friday Lunchtime. He told me to arrange to have the time of work, which I did and to arrange for my Mum to have the kids for a week, which I did.
That Friday night, he said flights were coming in at about £1200, which I thought was too expensive, so near Christmas, and told him that I would go if he could buy my seat at £600 or less. That weekend, I was so exited. The Monday after I was off work and checked flights out on the internet, I couldn't find anything suitably priced. On Tuesday evening, my hubby informed me that he had booked his flight, be paid £502 for his seat and "by the way" I am taking a female collague. That moment my world fell apart. No only had my hubby dropped my in favour of a "female collague" but my exciting trip had been stolen from me.
As you can imaging, several rows happened over the next two weeks, during which I was told, by him, that I was being stupid for being upset and that I needed to seek some form of councelling. Only when he went to my Mum, I assume to try and get her on his side (which did not work) did he actually appreciate how I felt.
I have asked him about this woman, and I think I am happy that there is nothing going on.
He returns tomorrow and I am picking him up from the airport. I am still very incredibly hurt. My friends and family all feel that I am acting "normally" by being so upset. But after speaking to my husband several times while he has been away, I get the impression that he thinks it's all over now and he will return home and everything will be normal. But, I still feel very sad and to be honest I don't know if things will every be the same again - or at least for a long time. If he ever asks again - can I trust him that he will hold true to his word. I can't understand why, when this woman decided to go with him, why he didn't just say "I'm taking my wife and everything's arranged".
If he hadn't have asked me to go, I wouldn't be feeling like this.
Tell me, I am just "throwing my toys out of the pram" or do you think that I've every reason to feel this way??
About three weeks ago, I received a phone call from my hubby, whilst I was at work. He phone to tell me that he was going to the Far East (China) in early November and as he was travelling alone would I like to go with him- you can imagine my response "of course"! I asked him if he was joking - "no - of course not". So, as it was very near Christmas I said I would accompany him if the flight was the right price. All this happened on a Friday Lunchtime. He told me to arrange to have the time of work, which I did and to arrange for my Mum to have the kids for a week, which I did.
That Friday night, he said flights were coming in at about £1200, which I thought was too expensive, so near Christmas, and told him that I would go if he could buy my seat at £600 or less. That weekend, I was so exited. The Monday after I was off work and checked flights out on the internet, I couldn't find anything suitably priced. On Tuesday evening, my hubby informed me that he had booked his flight, be paid £502 for his seat and "by the way" I am taking a female collague. That moment my world fell apart. No only had my hubby dropped my in favour of a "female collague" but my exciting trip had been stolen from me.
As you can imaging, several rows happened over the next two weeks, during which I was told, by him, that I was being stupid for being upset and that I needed to seek some form of councelling. Only when he went to my Mum, I assume to try and get her on his side (which did not work) did he actually appreciate how I felt.
I have asked him about this woman, and I think I am happy that there is nothing going on.
He returns tomorrow and I am picking him up from the airport. I am still very incredibly hurt. My friends and family all feel that I am acting "normally" by being so upset. But after speaking to my husband several times while he has been away, I get the impression that he thinks it's all over now and he will return home and everything will be normal. But, I still feel very sad and to be honest I don't know if things will every be the same again - or at least for a long time. If he ever asks again - can I trust him that he will hold true to his word. I can't understand why, when this woman decided to go with him, why he didn't just say "I'm taking my wife and everything's arranged".
If he hadn't have asked me to go, I wouldn't be feeling like this.
Tell me, I am just "throwing my toys out of the pram" or do you think that I've every reason to feel this way??