orgasms

[Christianwife22]

Truly embarrised so please bare with me

I am 22 and live in CT and recently married a wonderful man . Were both Christians and proud to say we both waited til marriage . I lost my mom when I was 10 to BC and was raised by my father and he was very strict. I couldn't even look at the word sex if you know what I mean

Now since I am sexually active I have a question about orgasms well a few questions and I am hoping someone can help me

Does a woman have a orgasm from intercourse

What position brings a woman to orgasm

How do you know if you have a orgasm

How long should your partner last ( TMI ) my husband maybe lasts about 3 minutes of penetration

I read that masturbation helps a woman learn her own body which makes having orgasms easier . I know masturbation is a debate but do a lot of woman masturbate even if there married.

I have thought recently about masturbating (again TMI ) but I just can't start . I feel foolish and start laughing . Do woman say " Hey I am going to masturbate now " or does it just happen . I can't see myself saying to myself " Laura go masturbate " . Do woman set up a romantic scene when they masturbate

maybe this is all dumb but I need to talk to someone. I tried our pastor's wife and a nurse at my OB GYN but when it came time to talk I didn't say a word a my face blushed

Thanks for all your help

[Liz]

You may find that this book is helpful, Intended for Pleasure (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/healthclub/healthsex/intendpleas/). It will answer a lot of questions you have. You've waited until you get married and you have the opportunity to learn and grow together. Talking to each other and telling each other what gives pleasure will help you along, and it will help you both to discover how to make love in a way that brings you both pleasure.

To take your specific questions:
Yes women have orgasms and they can be very wonderful.
There isn't any particular postion that makes it happen, all sorts of things contribute. You can have fun finding out what helps you.
When you have an orgasm, you will know it has happened.
Women often take longer to relax and get excited. The skill for your husband will be to be patient and find ways to give you pleasure and save penetration until you are ready. All these things will take time to become skilled at.
Exploring your body will help you to feel confident and relax when making love, but why do it yourself when your husband is there to help?

I suspect that reading the book will help to encourage and reassure you both. Why not read it together.

Liz