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fallenstar
11th September 2004, 04:47 PM
Well, my H has been out of the house for 2 1/2 wks. now and still "isn't sure". We have been going to therapy. I just received our cell bill and I saw he has been calling OW 5-6xs/day since the day I found out about A on 8/24. Of course he has an excuse that it was about work (she's a realtor, he's a loan consultant), about her H calling him and just briefly talked about both of there situations. I don't but it. Some calls were 30 min. long! I just don't feel like he's trying. I feel alone in this. I'm ready now to go ahead and file for divorce. It scares me to death b/c it's such a permanent move. I'm a stay home Mom and am terrified of starting over. It's so painful to think of it. I feel though that he is almost in a way waiting for ME to make this move. He told me last wk. that if I filed, he wasn't signing anything b/c he doesn't know that's what HE wants. I'm sick of everything being about him. Who's going to take care of me? That's what I have to think about, our son and I. Please tell me this is the right thing to do!

Kate
11th September 2004, 04:55 PM
Dear Fallenstar

It's right if it's what you really want and you have thought through the long term consequences of such a decision. The number and length of calls do seem rather long to this person. Have you tried telling him that you are fidning it hard to believe him and perhaps ask him to help you by ressuring you that he is talking to her only when necessary for business. Now you've started the counsellign surely it is worth sticking with it as long as possible to try and sort out your differences.

Kate