A lot of tears

[nfj]

This is probably very different than what all of you havewritten, because it is the exact opposite. My husdand and I have been married for 2 1/2 months. We have nothing but fun together, but I messed things up bigtime. My husband was and still is deployed to Japan. I made a huge mistake and slept with another man. I have told my husband what has happen and am very sorry for it. I was not myself and was drunk. I know that I can't hide behind that, but it is true. I love my husband very much. I never want to be without him. He was very pissed off at me when I told him (which I did over the phone, since he is in Japan). He has forgiven me since, but he has not forgotten. I understand that. I know I did wrong. Now we want to try to rebuild the trust and get around this situatiuion. I have told him that I would do anything he wants to make this work. I have gone to the church and asked for forgiveness from God. This is the first time that this has ever happened, and I will never let it happen again. I have decided that I will also go talk to someone about my binge drinking. Can anyone help with any suggestions on how to heal a broken heart and build up that trust again.

thanks in advance

[smackie9]

All wounds will heal over time:) . You should go to AA to get counselling about the drinking. You need to figure out why you binge drink, which led you to cheat on your husband. Good Luck.

[Kate]

Hi nfj,

There is an area of the site about affairs (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/infidelity/) that you might like to look at and an article specifically on rebuilding trust (http://www.2-in-2-1.co.uk/marriageclinic/infidelity/trust/).

Forgiveness is something that can happen at once and also take time to live out. Even though it's hard, be patient with each other. If you both trust in God, then he will heal your hurts, but you need to cooperate with him and sort your drinking problem out and what lies below.


Kate
:)

[nfj]

Thank you ladies for suppling some good tips and links. I love my husband very much and will do anything to make it right between us.

Once again Thanks,
NFJ

[pb'swife]

I can completely sympathize with you. I have always believed that my husband and I are soul-mates. When I just recently blew it, it wasn't that I physically cheated. It was probably worse because I actually considered what it would be like to be in a relationship with other men. I also betrayed the one I love. If I learn any thing about how to mend a marriage after a wife has been unfaithful, I'll share that with you. I hope all the best for you and your husband.