I need some good advice

[RTF]

I've been here before but got very few responses. Several years ago my wife had an affair with a man she rode to work with. We got everything striaghted out and are very happy. I am now impotent but have medication to fix the problem. I just can't forget about her being in bed with the other guy. It's been a long time and I should be able to get over it. Does anybody have any good advice? Thanks.

[smackie9]

You need to let your wife know how you feel. Talking about it, kind of like "airing it out" may make you feel better and help you get over it. If she loves you, she will listen. Some men have trouble talking about their feelings, it can be hard, but it does help! Good communication in a relationship is very important.:)

[Springheeled Jack]

It must have beem so hard for you. It is every guys night mare to have their partner sleep with someone else whilst they are still with you.

You say you got everything straightened out, that's great, forgiveness plays a large part of a realtionship. If you can put it out of your head, concentrate of rebuilding your marriage. Forgive her that is the easy part, forgetting is another matter. What ever you do, if you have an argument with her dont throw it back at her, thats out of order. Tempting though it may be.

It takes a big man to forgive his partner, who may have regretted the incident anyway.

A similar thing happened to me with my first wife, and I thought at the time that I would never get over it, never forget it. however time was a great healer and I did.

You'll be ok in time. Dont let this affect your marriage, which has been lucky enough to get a second chance. Dont ruin it by letting a past mistake influence you.

Be happy

All the very best friend

Springheeled jack

[RTF]

Thanks friends, that was great.